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writes:I am in love with a girl whom I think is just God-blessed in everything she does.School-wise, she's been around since kindergarten, though I hardly noticed her throughout those years. As we became mere high school freshmen in 2004, I began to actually notice her, and I didn't realize how absolutely beautiful she is. Perfect figure: a bit short, long dark brown hair, an acne-free face with beautiful eyes and scrumptious lips. I fell head-over heels for her. The biggest problems that hindered me from approaching her was that the fact that I hardly knew her, she was in honors classes, I was not, and we're socially very quiet on a regular basis.Anyway, like I said, I began to believe that she was...a symbol of perfection. She was highly intellectual, always getting the some of the highest grades in some of the hardest courses, whilst having time to go out and party on the weekends. She also is magnificent at playing the flute, she was first chair in our marching band (whilst I was first chair baritone-euphonium).She also received recognition for being a semi-finalist in the Poetry Out Loud recitation contest, as well as winning our local spelling bee contest. She was nearly valedictorian at our graduation last year, only at #3.How do these types of girls manage all this and still have the time to go out and party on the weekends? I've always felt like I'm not good enough for her, and I am starting to believe that it's true. She knows I like her as well, but I still can't bring myself to talk to her, hell, I usually have to use my entire strength to keep myself from kissing her. All her acheivements are taking a toll on my self-esteem. I hope anyone can answer my questions, I also apologize for the length of it all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI respect all your answers and input. I'm just trying hard to overcome my insecurities about this girl, especially her accomplishments. Like I said, I don't feel worthy enough for her, and I'm trying hard to change that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2009): I don't even know where to start.I was just stumped on reading your question. I wanted to give you my perspective. I have been the school topper all my life.I studied to be a professional.I have won state level elocution,debates,poetry,singing,dancing,painting and was an athlete.you name it and I have done it.I play Guitar as a hobby. I got the special student of the year award in high school.I am a 36-28-36 as well. Most of my life guys never looked at me or even came and spoke to me.Recently one of my schoolmates told me I was so scared of you.You were the best in everything.Now we are friends. You need to understand beneath all of this I am just another girl who dreams of a guy who would like to kiss me silly,hug me to take the breath out of me and in short fall head over heels in love with me.I don't want him to be good or perfect in everything he does.I want him to be a guy who looks at me with his heart in his eyes. Please Please go on and ask her out.:)
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reader, jakeee +, writes (19 February 2009):
Well dude if you really like her then you got to start to man up. Girls like men who are confident in who they are, so never show her youre fragile. If you want this to go anywhere then you have to make the first move, girls wont come up to you, thats your job, and im sure you could pull it off easily. Just talk about something that interests her at first so she could feel you care about her and then if she likes you she will open up to you :-) but dont become too clingy thats a turn off.Good luck bro !
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reader, mimisoph3 +, writes (19 February 2009):
 most girls can be great in school and still party..maybe she wants something out of life in the future.doe he like u back. i think shes ur soulmate,u knew he since kindergarden thats amazingg..and dont be afraid,you'll never get what you want if youre afraid of everything,so go out there and join something thats shes joining just so that you guys could get to know each other and talk to her thats the only way u'll ever move forward wit her.then later if youre ready just ask her out.you just have to step out of your comfort zone and step up and talk to her,you'll realize later its not a big deal
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reader, eocalla +, writes (19 February 2009):
First of all bud if you want to have a remote chance of striking up a romance with this girl you're going to have to get the idea that she's so high above you and you are unworthy out of your head. Girls (all girls) like a confident guy. Some girls hold confidence higher on the scale of admirable traits in a male than other girls but they all find it attractive.If you actually want to pursue this girl you first have to believe that you can attain her. You're going to have to know to the core that you can get her. Not only are you going to have to muster up the courage to initiate casual conversations with her but you're going to have to entertain her and strike her interest while you're conversing.You said that this girl parties on the week ends. If I were you I would get to these parties. Get in social time with her. Try to befriend some of the guys you know that get a lot of attention from girls, watch how they act around these girls. Learn from them. I use to be like you when I was in high school, I would fantasize about these girls I admired but was way to insecure to actually act on my desires.I turned all that around by watching and learning, taking some care in my appearance (dressing well + working out). My confidence went through the roof and believe me, girls noticed.With some effort I think you can be who you want to be but you're going to have to change your attitude because if you don't think much of yourself, girls wont either.
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reader, eocalla +, writes (19 February 2009):
First of all bud if you want to have a remote chance of striking up a romance with this girl you're going to have to get the idea that she's so high above you and you are unworthy. Girls (all girls) like a confident guy. Some girls hold confidence higher on the scale of admirable traits in a male than other girls but they all find it attractive.If you actually want to pursue this girl you first have to believe that you can attain her. You're going to have to know to the core that you can get her. Not only are you going to have to muster up the courage to initiate casual conversations with her but you're going to have to entertain her and strike her interest while you're conversing.You said that this girl parties on the week ends. If I were you I would get to these parties. Get in social time with her. Try to befriend some of the guys you know that get a lot of attention from girls, watch how they act around these girls. Learn from them. I use to be like you when I was in high school, I would fantasize about these girls I admired but was way to insecure to actually act on my desires.I turned all that around by watching and learning, taking some care in my appearance (dressing well + working out). My confidence went through the roof and believe me, girls noticed.With some effort I think you can be who you want to be but you're going to have to change your attitude because if you don't think much of yourself, girls wont either.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2009): please be a man and dont punish her for being well rounded and successful. if you like her, you like all of her, succes and all. my advice is man up, walk over to her, tell her you want to take her out. if she rejects you, at least you have closure to move on instead of sulking in the shadows wishing you had the guts to know if she might like you back.
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