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writes:Hey guys,I've posted about this before, and it's been a long and really confusing past few months. There's this girl, who I met at a party, then we ended up becoming friends. She's kind of different to other girls, and she's kind of unpredictable.We became really close after the party, we hung out a lot. We told each other things about each other's lives, that even my best friend, and her best friend didn't know about each other. We didn't even go to movies, we just talked to each other. She did things like texting me when she got back from a camp, told me what her dreams were. It sounds very mature, I know, but that's what happened.So I feel like I got led on.Then she went overseas for a month. I saw her before that, and I don't know why, but when she was overseas, she started acting kind of cold towards me. Like she suddenly saw me as a stranger. When she came back, it seemed okay, but then she started acting weird, like ignoring me, deleting my posts on Facebook, making excuses not to talk with me. Her best friend says she's been busy with exams, but that doesn't mean she has to ignore me completely, delete my stuff, and block me on Facebook.I don't know what I did, and it's killing me on the inside right now. Anyone have any advice, about anything on this?
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reader, hannah76  +, writes (13 August 2011):
 She changed her mind. Don't ask her friends about her and don't believe the "busy with exams" rubbish. She went overseas and then no longer wanted to text, talk etc. don't look for reasons as there probably aren't any. Just accept that she has gone now. So, the first thing to do is to no longer keep her details or contact her. Delete her stuff as well and don't bother. You sound a caring guy in the way you respected things and made sure she was ok. So, move forward and look to attract aother girls. Don't take this personally, people change minds everyday. Best wishes x
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reader, sammy1986 +, writes (13 August 2011):
you said it yourself she.s unpredictabable maybe she does like you but is worried about the distance between you,s i would text her find out what is up with her or maybe sorry to say this she met someone else overseas
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reader, Kyle007  +, writes (13 August 2011):
As far as your concern about not knowing what you did, you did nothing wrong. You offered yourself to her, you communicated and now its over. She is not into you anymore, right or wrong.
We can't always predict what another is going to do. You don't seem like someone who deserves this.
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reader, xclamation point +, writes (13 August 2011):
Your relationship with "unpredictable" started off nicely and might have continued that way but for the 1 month trip. Nothing kills a fresh connection faster than that loss of geographic proximity/follow through. This happened to a friend of mine. After seeing a woman for two months she took off for an African safari. When she returned a month later they were like strangers. It would seem that you have both lost something that had potential. But don't pursue this girl - she might have had a fling while traveling and isn't sure what she feels. Give her some time to settle back into reality and maybe she'll get her priorities straight. If not, you sound like a guy who knows how to communicate and get close to a woman. You won't be lonely long!
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reader, Dance4 +, writes (13 August 2011):
People distance themselves if they feel like they do not have feelings for someone. This may not help you understand. But I've learned this from experience. I know how you feel... She is probably the only thing on your mind... But you should try and just put her in the back of your head. I'm basically going through a really hard break up with a navy guy. That is distancing himself. But things will work out in the end for you. Stay positive
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