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41-50,
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writes:I have been dating a guy for 4 months now. He is incredibly busy and travels away a lot so we have only actually had 10ish dates. The dates are always great but we never speak or text between then and I generally initiate the meeting up. I really like him but have no true sense of whether it is just a casual thing for him or if there is any potential in it developing into something more serious. I find it awkward to bring this up with him and don't want to become a cliche but I don't want such a casual thing. I am planning to text him to ask him directly as calling him is awkward but is this a good idea?. I might scare him off and am I being too heavy or is wanting some clarity fair enough?
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (6 July 2007):
 AskEve said it all.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (6 July 2007):
 If he is working hard then texting him to ask exactly what he wants from this relationship might actually scare him off. He'll only see it as pressure. Instead, why don't you text him just to say hi. He'll be sure to text you back if you take the initiative to do it first. Maybe just one a day at first (if he's not used to texting you) and then 2 or 3 a day. I'm sure once it becomes a regular thing then HE'LL take the initiative and start to text you without being prompted.
4 months isn't that long to be dating and considering how short a time you've been seeing one another I'd say things are going well with you both. He's obviously very busy with his job yet he's already met your family which is great! Maybe you could ask him to take you with him one time when he travels so he has you to come back to at the end of the day. It's worth a thought, don't you think? ;o)
Eve
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