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writes:This guy i like and I are both fourteen my mom doesn't want me to date him and doesn't like him. She doesn't know him as well as I do. He sits at my table at lunch and his name is Kai. He is super nice, and mentions some other girls a lot. We don't talk as mug as we used to, but I still catch him looking at me! I really like him and want him to really like me as well. It is very complicated. And need a lot of help deciphering whether or not he likes me and how to get him to like me. I have I tendency to be mean at times. But I really care about him. I need help fast!!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, thegrassisgreen  +, writes (31 March 2012):
 I'm 15, so I hope i can give you a response in which you can relate to.If I were you, I'd try to start talking to him more again. Definitely follow the tips Dr.2.be said, they're what I would probably suggest:).If you sit together at lunch, does this imply you're in the same friendship group? If so, you could arrange a day out with everybody, including him. This gives you an opportunity to see him outside of school, and maybe even a new, unexpected side to him. While you're out, be sure to spend plenty of time with him, and leave subtle, occasional signs suggesting that you're interested. If he returns the favor, or even shows any signs of being interested, perhaps he is interested in you.Also, I would talk to your mom about him. Tell her how you feel about him, and how you would like to be with him. Try to come up with a compromise with her, and I wish you good luck:).
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reader, dr.2.be +, writes (31 March 2012):
 Well all you can do is try talking to him some more.And be nice to him. How about one Monday you go over and sit next to him at lunch. Ask him how his weekend was, what he did, or what he would have liked to do if he didn't get to do anything. That should open up some communication lines. If he spends time talking to you as opposed to using one word answers or gestures only (like shoulder shrugs) it could mean he is interested, but I would teste the waters a little more. On say thursday sit next to him again and ask him how he is doing, how was a test he may have had this week or if he is doing anything fun over the weekend. Again if he willingly talks to you, may be a sign he is interested. I would keep testing the waters first and see how he feels about being near you. If you keep getting positive responses gradually do it more and more and see how his reaction is. Just remember, don't put too much pressure on him cause guys don't like that. Eventually you could invite him to hang out after school one day or see a movie. Something really light hearted and fun. Just remember, you can't make someone like you and if he doesnt seem too into it after a few tries just move on, there are plenty of fish in the sea. By the way, is there any reason why your mom doesn't like him? Maybe your mom knows something about him that you don't and wants you to be safe. But at the same time, I know how judgemental parents can be as I was your age not too too long ago. Just always remember to be careful.
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