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writes: I am not that very confident in my appearance and it affects me with guys and if I have a interest in a guy I will just ignore it and say "Well he wouldn't want me anyways" but I really wouldn't know. I also have a hard time talkin to them if I really like them. I guess I'm not meant for "LoVe". Please Help!!! LoneSum
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell  +, writes (15 July 2006):
 Hey LoneSum,
well you have to understand that you've got to take some risks and leaps of faith if you want to find somebody. There is a perfect mathc for everyone out there, you just need to get looking instead of waiting around for him to come to you! Everybody is meant for love, giving up on love is the thing that Makes you Lonely. Sure, you may have skipped the risks but that special someone really does matter. Always.
Hope this helped,
Phoebe
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2006): Well with such a defeatist attitude; your fears of having no one in your life will come true.
When you put so much of your energy and essence in a fear it is more likely to come true.
Now listen. You deserve love like anyone else and there is someone out there who will get you; understand you and see you for you.
You are more than the shell that your beautiful and strong spirit is housed in.
You bring value to this world. You are here and you have a purpose. You matter.
I don't know what kind of home you were raised in but it must not have been a very loving one as you would know you matter and that you are valued. A loving home really gives one a sense of purpose.
Now what can you do to have more confidence in your appearance? Most things can be enhanced. Girl, you have the goods. *wink* And I'm not implying start dressing trampy and be a Pamela Anderson. Not all men like that sort of woman anyways.
Do you have hobbies? Are you involved in any team sports? Do you excercise?
Sometimes getting out and building on a skill or talent helps boost your confidence as it keeps your mind busy on what you are doing and therefore it cannot be pre-occupied with nagging thoughts that beat yourself up.
You need to learn how to love yourself. You need to teach yourself that you are a good person with lots to offer. Stop comparing yourself to others and focus on you and get to know you.
You have many strengths.
I hope I have at least given you a direction to head in.
*hugs*
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