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writes:I have a bit of a problem, I'd really like your help with.Basically, I've just turned 18, but am quite immature (I suppose) for my age.Anyway, I work with this 15 year old girl, and we got on really well ever since I met her. She liked me (in that way), but I virtually rejected her because of the age thing, despite liking her in a way, myself. I didn't want my family or friends to hear about it and laugh, that I was going out with a 15 year old, at the age of 18. We used to text and flirt all the time, and would literally speak on the phone everyday.She liked me for about a month, claimed to 'love me', and said that I was incredibly hard to get over. We had a few arguments at work, and now she doesn't like me in this way anymore. She recently said that I have 'ruined my chance with her'. Ever since that happened, I just can't get her out of my head, and keep thinking about her.I have a history of liking someone I shouldn't, or who doesn't like me back, and am worried that this will continue to be the case. She is also not the normal kind've person I'd be interested in, but there is something about her that I really like, and there is nothing I can do about it.She's virtually not talking to me anymore, and keeps ignoring me by text, and this is awkward at work, and also quite embarrassing. It really is killing me, and I can't get her out of my head. I'm not sure whether I like her in that way, but hugely miss her friendship at the very least. I would never have sex with someone under 16 even if anything did happen with her, but just wondered what your thoughts are on what I should do, and about the age issues.I really just want things back how they were before, and really miss her, if I'm honest. She doesn't seem to want to know anymore, and that really hurts.Please help,Mark.
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reader, quicktrip16  +, writes (27 July 2007):
There is always a chance to win her back no matter what anyone says. Trust me, i have been there. You have to and i mean you HAVE to prove to her that she is still worthy to you. Even if it causes you a little embarassment maybe you should buy her flowers or something of that nature. Tell her exactly how you feel and not over texts, i mean in person. There is a huge difference between the two. Jus try to pull her aside and tell her exactly how you feel because if you truly want this to happen then it will. Even if its just her friendship that you win back thats a start and can lead to bigger things.
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reader, quicktrip16 +, writes (27 July 2007):
There is always a chance to win her back no matter what anyone says. Trust me, i have been there. You have to and i mean you HAVE to prove to her that she is still worthy to you. Even if it causes you a little embarassment maybe you should buy her flowers or something of that nature. Tell her exactly how you feel and not over texts, i mean in person. There is a huge difference between the two. Jus try to pull her aside and tell her exactly how you feel because if you truly want this to happen then it will. Even if its just her friendship that you win back thats a start and can lead to bigger things.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (27 July 2007):
 Mark,
When a woman tells you you ruined your chance, it's usually true. I think you're doomed. She gave you her attention for one month, and got nothing in return. You didn't virtually reject her; you rejected her, plainly. So, why would she take you now?
I'm sorry, but I think there is nothing you can do here. Stop the texting and talking, work as you would if she didn't like you, and move on.
In my opinion, her age should not have been a problem for you to have a relationship with her.
It would have been a problem if you were thinking about sex, as the age of consent in Britain, I understand, is 16. But there is no point discussing this now, since she has moved on.
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