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writes:My boyfriend and I are together for about one year now. Many a times I felt neglected by him because he is someone who prefers to have his personal time. I am not a very sticky person I think... I hope to meet up more times in a week rather than once a week.I told him many times before and whenever I tell him he will spend the next few days with me thereafter it revert back to once a week again.I feel really neglected and I don't know what to do... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe went to count down for Christmas Eve with his buddies and today which is new year's eve... HE WENT TO COUNT DOWN WITH HIS BUDDIES AGAIN...
Told him he said he needs to accompany them and he is a dillema... I really feel like crying He is not concern about me..........
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reader, FluffyPie  +, writes (30 December 2010):
 If there's ANYTHING that's bothering you, just talk to him, be calm and understanding, but firm.
Men are extremely bad with hints, so if you just keep it inside and act hurt, he still won't get it. I'm telling you this because my experience with my boyfriend made me see things in this manner. He is the typical rational 'fix it' guy, he doesn't even get the point when some random girl is flirting with him. US, women, know and we figure things out very easy. Men are simple minded creatures.
I'm sure that your boyfriend has no intention to hurt you by not spending time with you, but you should tell him "Look, I understand you need your space...", voice your expectations (as long as they're not absurd or unrealistic). This is not about compromise, because in such cases, only one of you is happy. You want to be happy as well. In order to build up trust and love, you have to see each other as often as possible. Every time you meet, do different things, or if you prefer stability, do the same things in different manners, so you can both be happy.
Good luck!
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reader, alexia846 +, writes (30 December 2010):
my ex was like this..it lasted ficve years please understand that this man is not gonna change, you want someone that is going to offer you the world.. this man is egoitistic and a narcassist.. please they love themselves too much
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reader, kenny  +, writes (30 December 2010):
 I think that you both need to sit down and have a good chat about where you think this relationship is heading, i do think that as you have been together for a year you should be seeing each other more than once a week. I am a beliver is personal space, infact its healthy for a couple to spend some time apart, like the old saying absence makes the heart grow fonder. However, as i said in the beginning you need to both sit down and have a proper one to one with him.
Does he have a hobby that keeps him away for a majority of the time? I say this because i go to the gym four times a week myself, and a few previous girlfriends have found this hard to deal with, but training is my passion.
Does he live a fair distance from you? Or does he have work ties, or have to work away alot?. What ever the case may be talk to him and stress how neglected you feel.
Good Luck
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