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male
age
30-35,
*heater
writes:Hey,I know this sounds daft but I think my teacher fancies me. 2 years ago we got too close and were told this by another teacher, however i got in trouble for bein too close to the teacher and nothing happened to her. Nothing happened between us, however the last time we spoke properly she said to me, " I just dont want us to end up like the COUPLES you see in the papers." However at the time i didnt think about what she said. She is 26 and I am 15, not quite old enough to be my mam lol.When we did get split up and told never to go near each other I seen her everyday in the corridors and she would say hiya eventhough what we had been told. So I decided she was getting on my nerves so i tripped her up in the corridor to give her the message, because of this i got in trouble again. That was around 11 month ago and ever since then she still smiles to me. One day about 2 month ago I walked by her classroom n she was sat on a table as i was walking by she pulled her skirt up to show her leg, crossed them and winked at me. I now think I am fallin for her n I dont know how to stop. If I pass her in the corridor when she is talkin to her teacher pals she stares at me alot they realise n look at me then roll their eyes. Do you think they know? I hav begun to fantasise about her which i find disgustin when i think shes a teacher! but i reallly fancy her. What can I do, should I stay well clear? I have a girlfriend too n she is really hot but this teacher has an amazin personality too. How can I stop myself?
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reader, wheater +, writes (29 June 2007):
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Today I had to wait for a lift of my mom so i waited at reception. The teacher came up to me stood about a metre away and just stared at me her lip wobbling like she wanted to say something to me. I had a feeling she did anyway. But I walked off but I cant stop thinking about her!
Why?!? My girlfriend doesnt know but I our relationship is going downhill.
:S HELP!
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reader, Country Woman +, writes (25 June 2007):
 Listen I think the fact that you were all over your girlfriend and tried to make her see that you are already involved actually made her react in the way she did.
It was like a come on and if you are trying to distance yourself from her then don't play games of any kind.
I personally wouldn't talk to her as she will then know that she is getting to you.
Totally ignore her, if she takes you for a particular lesson keep it completely teacher - student conversations with plenty of people around you when you talk about anything with her.
If she isn't attractive and there is no sexual feelings from you then I don't see this as a massive problem.
Do not play games is my advice and don't raise this issue with her as she could totally turn it around and then it is 'oh that's the boy with the crush on me, how sweet'.
Keep yourself surrounded with friends and avoid suggestive eye contact.
If you want to be assertive then do talk to her as a student but make sure you have straight eye to eye contact and be assertive and strong. Be positive in everything you say and practice by talking to yourself in a mirror and imagining it is a conversation with her. I guess role play but in the comfort of your own home.
You are a young boy who is gradually becoming a man so find your inner strength and don't put up with any more harrassment.
If you feel that this is not stopping then make out a diary of times and dates and conversations she tries to engage you into. Keep this and if it becomes intolerable then give it to your parents and say you are being harrassed by this teacher in a sexual/suggestive manner.
You then have evidence and not 'oh it is all in his mind, he is the one who fancies me scenario'.
I personally don't think you are disgusting but I do think that this woman - and basically that is what she is, is turning this situation into one that boosts her female ego. Don't be used as a pawn in her games as it is a very dangerous one and could affect you for a very long time and that is not fair on you as you are a school to learn and to be taught in a professional manner and she is not actually doing her job correctly if she is playing around like this with you.
Keep us posted eh!, here anytime so you can always talk OK.
BFN
Country Woman
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reader, wheater +, writes (25 June 2007):
wheater is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMe again...
I just dont know how to get her too stop.
Today I was with my girlfriend, I was holdin hands with her and flirting so the teacher could get the message but she just walked faster to catch up to us, walked beside us then looked at me and give me a look.
She isnt even fit, i just loved her personality but she is really freaking me out now. No other boys fancy her.
I cant tell her it aint gunna happen cos she will pretend she doesnt like me in the first place. I think Im gunna take her aside and tell her to stop playing games.
Thanks for the great reply Country Woman
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reader, mh26hm  +, writes (25 June 2007):
 disgusting!, stop thinking and fancing her!! gosh, she is your teacher!! fancy someone your own age and you are still very young!! from my past situations, when i was in highschool, freshman and sophomore year, i had these 2 female teachers and gosh they were very pretty and attractive. one of them always liked talking to me and teasing me when she talked and gave me sexual body gestures and gave me the looks and the other was being physical to me like touching me, giving me the looks, and moaned right next to me a few times, and tried to get close body contact with me, but in my thoughts i object and denial. also one of them probably fancies me. well, i enjoyed these flattering flirtations it does not mean i'm a lesbian, i'm still straight!!! but i object to all of these and at the same time i felt disgusted!! i got over it from these flirtations and stopped fancing and thinking about what they did to me!! it does not mean anything to me anymore!! so stop thinking about your teacher!!!!! if you have anymore concerns, send me a message....
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reader, Country Woman +, writes (24 June 2007):
Keep telling yourself that she is your teacher and as such she should know better.
She is in a position of authority and care and it is not fair of her to do this to you.
Yes she may well be fit but at the end of the day it can never go anywhere.
If you were not at school anymore and you had seen her out somewhere do you think you would be as tempted by a 26 year old. Maybe, who knows.
The fact is you see her daily and she is playing a very dangerous game with you.
You are at school to learn and your teachers are there to teach you. It is simple and that is the way of the world.
If it continues then I think you should tell someone i.e. your parents and tell them exactly what you have said on this site. It will get her into trouble but it could well be dismissed as a school boy crush that she will explain away.
Try to keep out of her way and avoid eye contact at any time. If she approaches you in any way make sure you keep other people around you. This could seriously jeopardise your school life and your grades and is she really worth the rest of your life, I don't think so.
She has obviously not been out of university very long and not been teaching for long either. She is not professional in her manner and yes she must get a thrill from boys looking at her all the time. It could well be a turn on for her but it is also very illegal as well.
Do you really want to be known as the boy who had the teacher, you would be scarred for life and no one would ever take you seriously.
Tell her straight if she does talk to you that it has to stop as it is not right while you are still at school and it can never happen between you. Be the mature one even if she is not.
Keep us posted eh!
Just tred carefully and hopefully things will settle down.
BFN
Country Woman
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