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writes:ok I am age between 13-15, and I love the idea of having a boyfriend, but I can wait until it will last a little longer than two weeks with someone that is right for me. Lately though, I am close to my period and I keep panicking that I am lesbian, but when I think about the thought of having a boyfriend and that gives me butterflies. I really DO NOT want to be lesbian (but I have nothing against them), I love the idea of having kids and getting married, but is it normal around a girl's period to feel like I am lesbian? for whatever reason?Anyone's insite would be appreciated
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2010): Your hormones are going nuts on you, and you're in puberty... thoughts like this (combined with the normal panic / fear about all the uncertainties of life, growing up...etc) are going to make you have all kinds of thoughts, and all kinds of fears...
RELAX!!! Many of us (most I think, but no telling!) have been where you are now, and made it thought it and are alive and doing quite well I'm happy to report!
Take it easy, relax and let life unfold. It's a journey you take daily! Don't worry about tomorrow (it's pointless) as you'll spend all your energy worrying and miss 90% of the great stuff!
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reader, Sharly48625  +, writes (17 July 2010):
 I'm 13. When I first had my period I..well started to have weird thoughts. I was kinda attracted to girls as well as the cute guys. So I panicked, 'Why was I looking at other girls like that?'
I spoke to a close friend who simply said its 'your gay side, everyone has one' I only relaxed a little.
So I researched. Since your hormones are doing weird things and throws many things off balance.
I thought I was lesbian. I kept panicking, how would my religious mom react? What would I tell my sister?
So I decided to accept the fact slowly.
My theory is (since both our problems are the same): It can be your 'gay side' but I think its, 'where am I?' kinda situation. (kinda blame hormones if ya wanna ^-^)
I was growing...breasts and I kept staring at girls. I think its because I wanted to know, if I was good enough, big in enough.
You are not lesbian. trust me. Not now, I mean who knows, in the future :)
I dont know if this information was helpful but my situation is exactly the same so I decided to share my story. :D
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reader, dirtball +, writes (16 July 2010):
 Ultimately, here's what I believe. Humans are sexual beings. Not gay/straight/bi, those are labels we've given ourselves because of society, and our need to label everything. There is a streak in all of us that swings a little the opposite the norm. Have I ever found men attractive, sure. If you really question it, find a girl who is willing to make out with you a little bit. You'll likely know really quickly if that is something that you really like.
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reader, love=confusing +, writes (16 July 2010):
love=confusing is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell started to think of girls in that way out of no where, when I didn't want to, and someone told me that women have more of the hormone that causes sexual attraction and during their period it can go all out of wack :/
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2010): it really depends on how you are liking the girls.... Some of my friends tend to get closer to their girl friends just because well we r girls and we know whats goin on. It also might be because you are a sensitive person (if you are) because some times guys dont realize all the stuff that comes with having a period. and as far as you boyfriend thing.... Dont just date someone because they might be right for you date them because you r friends with them... so in other words actually know them before you decide to go out with them... like people say u often end up marrying your best friend.
I hope this helped..
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reader, Elydiese  +, writes (16 July 2010):
You dont sound like you want to be a lesbian at all. Do you feel attracted to females in any way?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2010): First of all, you probably get bored of all those boys because you've never fall in love. When you find the true love, with whom you can have infinite fun and joy, share your most moments together you will not fall apart. So in ur ages, its a bit normal, so enjoy it. Plus, i have lesbian friends and they've told me that they recognized their situation in their first love. She said, "When i was 8 or 9 I liked a girl, she was my first love." so dont worry, if you were you would recognize it :)
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reader, dirtball +, writes (16 July 2010):
I don't get how you "feel like you're a lesbian." That makes no sense. If you're attracted to boys, you're straight. It sounds to me like you're straight. If you were gay, you'd know it. All my gay friends did.
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reader, BrownWolf +, writes (16 July 2010):
 Question?? Why do you think you are a lesbian because you are close to your period?? Did someone tell you this?
You can no way, not even possible to be a lesbian because of your period. Being a lesbian means not having sexual feelings towards boys.
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