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writes: im nearly 18 and im so confused about my sexuality! im defo straight cause i loveee boyss! but lately i hav been having feelings for girls in the same way! :| i think i fancy girls too! i really dont want to be a lesbian! but i cant help my feelings can i!! am i turning gay or do people somtimes just "look around at whats on offer"
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2010): ok, i did some small things with my friend that we both regret doing, we're both christians and straight but i think i might still have some weird feelings about her that i really wish i didnt have we'reboth still sexual but we try to keep it jokes
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2010): Hiya there , i am going through the same thing . i dont want to be a lesbian either . so im settleing for bisexual . that means you can date both sexes , maybe dont tell anyone you fancy women , but if you feel ready tell only a couple of friends . it is really hard for me cause i have been watching things on a porn website , this is where i first became a lesbian . hope this helps . agony madam . x
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2010): hey im 17 and i dated guys up until around 7th grade when my mom left me and i started to feel a void for a woman figure, and began to see girls differently and i still do. maybe something in your family life has triggered your gay feelings. i really don't wanna be a lesbian either.... it feels so wrong but at the same time it's all i can think about.
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reader, -Red-  +, writes (25 February 2010):
 Hunny it seems that hardly anyone on here knows what this means. There is no "just" straight or gay. You sound like you are bisexual.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2009): I'm 16 and I'm lesbian, I'm completely cool with it too, probably because I'm not religious and I don't have a bunch of crazies telling me what's wrong and what's right! Just accept yourself; being a lesbian isn't bad, there are millions of them out there. Who the heck even cares? Are you afraid of being an outcast? Are you afraid that your god won't accept you? phhhh, yeah right! God loves everyone, gay or straight. Take a chill pill it's going to be okay. I promise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2009): I know how it is...I am so miserable and fucked up right now. after experimenting a little with my best friend...who always tried to make it clear between us that we're not lesbians...I started to have strange sexual feelings toward her-i wanted to be sexual toward her but in a submissive way.. The relationship was very strained. She was possessive of me, often angry at me for one reason or another and she had a lot of shit going on in her life. I brushed aside my emotions...considered the problem not that big of a deal...I told her about it---and for a while we fluctuated back and forth from not being physically touchy to experimenting again....but then...I realized that I loved her to the point that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her. I never felt this way toward anyone else in my life...but then I was sickened by this because she's not at all lesbian (even though she sort of acts like it sometimes) and she doesn't love me in that way. I broke down crying in church...and then she thought that I had been touching her during her sleep at the sleep over in sexual places...because in my hysteria my explanation came out sounding really wrong-even though I didn't (although I was quite horny)so she quit talking to me for several weeks and i suffered in silence. i couldn't talk to anyone except my christian friend who was there when i broke down (she knew earlier too)I later apologized to her for being so fucked up and not confronting her earlier in a way that she could understand how serious this was getting and for sort of blaming my fuckedupness on her...for a long time i was afraid to talk to her because i thought that she secretly had feelings for me but just didn't want to admit it...how i wish i could go back in time and talk to her beforehand to evade that terrible day at church.now we've pretty much cut off the frienship.I love her so muchI want her to be happyi think now the last thing she needs is some screwed up girl like me in her lifeDoes anyone know where to find reparative therapists? the APA doesn't consider homosexuality a problem..but it is. turning lesbian wouldn't do me any good because i don't have an ounce of interest in that way toward other women...i even have little towards men.-the bodies of attractive men are nice but to tell you the truth i don't feel a desire to be physical with them much more than I do dark chocolate icecream (its good but not so good i care all that much whether i get it or not). i don't have a strong emotional connection with any of them...to me the idea of having sex without that is utterly unappealing-not even enjoyable none of them (at least the one's i've met) could match the beauty i have seen in my friend's soul. perhaps i'll be swept off my feet when mr. right comes but in the mean time.. I know i have only really loved her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2008): I am 15 years of age. I only have sexual feelings tors other females. To tell you the truth i have been like this for as long as i can think back. I go to church and i don't want to be like this because i love god far to much.
My therapist thinks that it's because of my mom's past. I can agree to that only i rather not.
I came out to my mother and my whole family is ok with it. Well almost every one. I'm still having a hard time with it. i don't like it one bit.
I even pray for god to take my gay away. Only it helps non what so ever. God help me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2008): I have the ultimate answer to all of your questions.
Read about:
Romantic Friendship
Anatomy Of A Girl Crush
The Psychology With Which Women Regard Other Women
Boston marriage
Friendship Commitment Ceremony
Email me at [email address blocked]. I'm an expert in these areas. And I have a whole blog about it. Yes, I once thought I was a lesbian, but that was because I thought there wasn't any other "choices".
I thought "gay" "straight" and in "between" was all there is. Apparently, I was wrong....
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2008): First things first don't be so scared!! your worried about what other people will think if you were to discover you were a lesbian, but your attraction to boys rules that out. Don't be so hasty to judge yourself. It must be extremely difficult to go through what you are goingthrough but you must understand to give it time, things will pan out. i know this because i was a normal 11 year old when i first found my attraction for women, but i always had boyfriends, lost my virginity to a man and have been with more since then. untill i turned 18, i decided to be true to myself. i went on holiday to wales and decided to just find some space in the middle of nowhere and think about me and my life and where i am going. i could not be happier in my relationship now than ever. just try and find yourself, be true and have trust in your heart!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2007): I know how you feel to be honest I rather die than become a lesbian but lately I had feelings to but it makes me sick to think that the best thing to do is to avoid the things that turn you on.I might sound like a nutter but its the truth i know how it can torment you.Run away from thoe feelings and when no ones around scream as had as you can to let your emotions out trust me it works!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2007): I am 25 now and have delt with the same issue my ENTIRE life. Growing up a Christian has confused me so much even to this day. Do I accept me for me and risk the consequences of my faith? OR be who everone else says I should be according to my religion? I have accepted me for me but what consequence will I face on a spiritual sense when this world and my life has ended? I think you should accept you for you b/c nothing in life should be so hard. We are suppose to enjoy life. Don't fight what is in you if it causing you heart-ache....
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2007): Hunny, Iv been going through the same lately. So your not alone! I know I want a man sexually and want a relationship with bloke. Dont get bogged down with worry like me! I dont even understand lesbian rlationships! We can all tell if other girls are attractive. Chill out and the right bloke for you will come alongxxx
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reader, vina_101  +, writes (19 December 2006):
 Yeah you're probbaly just looking at what's on offer. It's probably just a phase. This is quite normal for some people so no need to worry.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2006): It's perfectly natural to be curious at the age that you are, I know I was. Later I discovered that there are no boundaries for feelings. No matter someone's sex, age, colour, or religion, if you like someone you like them for who they are, not what they are.
Sure, you can keep preferences about your ideal partner, but keep an open mind and you never know what you might find
Be happy x
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2006): Alot of people go through mixed stages and fancy both sexes, so i wouldnt worry if i were you. If it carries on for years you could be bi, it doesnt mean that you are a lesbian.
Just keep calm and im sure it will all work out
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reader, scared16 +, writes (17 December 2006):
 i have a boyfriend i hav bin wiv 4 10 months n i love boys but occasionally i hav feelings for girls. it doesn mean ur a lesbian. ir doesn necessarrily mean u r gay u jus get a thrill thinkin about bin wiv a girl. i dont want 2 go with a girl but i get turned on thinkin about it. does tha help? x x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2006): Don't act on those feelings and focus your attention on guys and don't let anyone tell "How do you know if your don't try?" That is the classic trap a gay or lesbian person will use on you to get you to "open up" to further their own agenda.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2006): You're not turning gay. You are born a certain way. You are most likely bisexual. Plus it's possible you're going through an experimental phase. I know that you're probably afraid of how others see you, if your friends/family will accept you, or maybe you're religious... But, as humans we have all the bads and goods of emotions and pleasure, either they be naughty or nice. Seriously, do not suppress your desires at all. If need be, move to a place where homosexuality/bisexuality is more accepted. If I was bisexual/homosexual, there are some places I wouldn't want to be at.
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