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writes:I've been single since October And most people I talk to say that they like being single but I don't. Everyone says that I will never fibnd a boyfriend if I am looking but I cant just stop. I like a couple of guys but I am 99% sure none of them like me the same way. I hate this feeling but I need a guy. The last guy was a jerk but he was my first real boyfriend (and kiss) but I have had no action since. I hate the feeling i have being single but is there really nothing I can do about it? Help me! Reply to this Question
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reader, sunandstars +, writes (15 March 2012):
I completely understand how you feel, being loved is the best feeling in the world. I broke up with my boyfriend a few months ago and I ended up trying to get with this guy that I've now realised didn't have the qualities I want at all, I was just lonely. I suggest you re-evaluate what qualities you want in a guy, don't do what I did and go for someone that doesn't suit you just because you're lonely. Although it seems stupid, I think that saying is true, if you try too hard it just seems impossible for someone to come along. Wait for someone that fulfills all your needs, I promise he's out there! Just enjoy being a strong, independent young woman, and don't let it drain your confidence! Good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Jeni! 3
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2012): I'm not going to bore you with the whole 'Your young' speech because am sure your pretty aware of your own age!
I will say this however...If you look for something it will always hide.
If you feel the NEED to be with someone you need to look at yourself & see where this need is coming from.
If you aren't happy & comfortable being on your own,then NO-ONE will be happy & comfortable being in a relationship with you.
The minute you STOP looking & become happy & content with yourself someone special might just pop up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2012): i think you should ask a guy out that you like and see what he says. it doesnt hurt to know and if he says no at least you wont be wondering for the rest of your life
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reader, Xx-Scorpio-xX +, writes (13 March 2012):
 You're only young~ you still have your whole life ahead of you. I only had my first kiss when i was 17 (nearly 18, and i'm 19 now). I never did anything before this. And i'm pleased i didn't~ i've skipped the whole young teenage boys being immature stage and i've developed my own personality and am comftable being myself. There is nothing wrong with being single, i'd recomend concentrating on your school life and friends rather than trying to get a boyfriend who will distract you and can create un-necessary drama.
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (13 March 2012):
 How old are you? Seriously, you have your WHOLE LIFE to worry about finding a man. See that word 'MAN'. At the moment, you are dating teenage boys, boys who you will mess around with and learn about emotion, but they will never be a long term partner. You are still a child (whether you like it or not) and need to concentrate on growing up and maturing.
Enjoy your childhood, you only get one. DONT waste it by mooning over boys, who couldn't care less about you. When you are older, and more grown up, you will be glad you spent time on things that YOU enjoyed, and experienced things you would never have done when in a relationship.
This makes you sound like an ageing player "ive had no action since".... seriously... what, 6 months? is that ALL?
In my early/mid 20's I was single (no dates, no sex) for over 6 years. As an adult, you have to come to terms with this and carry on enjoying life regardless. Then the right man will come along, and you will be glad you didnt waste time on idiots.
To be honest, I do not think you understand what being single is all about. You have had one boyfriend, and are at the beginning of your romantic life. There really is plenty of time to be getting worked up about it. Just because your friends may be in and out of 'relationships' (I use the term lightly), kissing one boy one week and another the next..... doesn't mean that everyone is doing it!
I think you need to get your priorities straight and work out WHY you feel like this.
* WHY do you feel you need a guy to make your life complete?
* Are you just trying to 'fit in' with teenage coolness?
* What do you hate about being single?
Become a strong and independant young woman. You do NOT need a man to complete you or make you better. Be strong on your own!
Tiger x
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