I realized too late how much I love her but now she wants space!

A male age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I had dated a girl for about 8 and half years. I am now 27 and we met our senior year in high school. She was my first love and best friend. Our relationship has always been fantastic. We get along so well its amazing. We both went to different colleges but we made it work for 5 years. We always stayed together, but I was always really shy and my communication was never good. I always loved her but I never showed her the way she needed to be showed. She is amazing. I was also afraid to open up to her and just tell the world this is my girlfriend. I was always shy and never communicated well with her. But she stuck with me knowing I needed to communicate better. After college, I played a professional sport in Europe and I am now in my fourth year. The first two years we were apart for 8 out of 12 months. I always loved her but just didnt feel right about getting married. I guess in the back of my head I felt like I needed to figure myself out first. So my thrid year we didnt talk for a lot of the year and then when I was home for the summer we found things again. Then I left her again and came back over to Europe. I am in my fourth year over and we broke up in October. It was killing me dragging her on and not asking her to marry me. I love her so much, but I she wasnt ready for marriage so I broke up with her. Then In January, it hit me like what the heck have I been doing with my life. I have an incredible girl and I have made the biggest mistake of my life. SO I had 3 days off and I surprised her and told her I love her. I opened up like never before. She has been trying to move on and I know I broke her heart so bad. I love her and want to marry for sure with no doubt in my mind. After I saw her, she asked for space and time to think. I emailed a few times and sent some flowers and earrings. She wanted space and I realized the emails werent working and I was being selfish so I emailed to apologize. She said we need to talk. So we talked on the phone and I apologized for not giving her her space and she said she really needs it and not to contact her anymore with emails or gifts. I agreed and saw that I was being really selfish. I dont want to give up, but I had so many chances and blew it. Is there a chance she will forgive me? I dont want to give up, but do I need to be strong and just hope she contacts be make or should I keep trying?

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