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writes:i was in a relationship for 15 years, lived with my boyfriend. he ended it. it was a bad breakup. he ended up getting a restraining order against me. now he is talking to me and acknowledging emails and texts. i don't know if he dropped the order. does this mean he is having feelings for me again?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2011): He has moved on with his life it's time you did.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (19 May 2011):
 He's married now. Leave it alone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionupdate
now my ex has blocked my texting again! he still reads my emails. he has stopped and talked to me for 5 minutes on the street. i'm really confused. maybe his new wife saw the text's and gave him a hard time. don't know. he seemed to enjoy talking to me again. i wish i could read his mind!!! but i don't want to call him and ask a million questions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2011): A restraining order typically restrains *both* parties. Simply e-mail him back reminding him of that, and asking if his contact implies that the restraining order no longer exists. Otherwise, then he should see to the RO before making further contact, as he is placing you in a difficult and unfair situation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questiondid i mention that he remarried third marriage he never wanted to get married again, he told me. after our breakup he was on a dating frenzy, so his kids told me. hes older then me, 11 years. all of a sudden he marries this foreign woman. on of my kids had a beer with him one night and they asked, "why did u get married" he said, "she wouldn't move in unless i married her". to me that doesn't sound like u fell madly in love, just wanted someone. i am trying to figure it all out, but dont want to ask him and bring up anything. just curious i guess. u get married so soon and now your talking to me? im confused i guess, help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2011): I would steer clear of it entirely. You have no idea if you are being set up by him. In the very least, what if things become sour again, and he files yet another restraining order? Or worse yet, what if he still has the restraining order and he isnt sure how he feels, but is testing it out again with you, and something goes amiss and then he accuses you of breaking the restraining order, and then you are in hot water?
If you are gung ho on pursuing this with him however, I would make good and sure that restraining order is dropped. You can do this by checking with the authorities or clerk of courts in the city/town the restraining order was filed in. Do you have a copy of it? It should state how long the RO was for.
I think you should consider just steering clear of this altogether, however. If things got as bad and as far as an RO, it is clear there are some rather negative emotions involved, and it shows that this relationship has the potential to get out of hand quickly.
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