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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:After two years of seeing this guy at the gym, 8 months ago he caught my eyes and 3 months ago we started talking. From getting to know him just a little, I find myself drawn to him. He's quite shy, very polite, well mannered, but from time to time I'll catch him staring or making his way to get close to me. He mentioned 3wks ago that he might be leaving the country soon for work. So not wanting to wonder "what if?" and given that he's shy, I put myself out there and told him that I find him very attractive and that I was bummed he's leaving as I was hoping to get to know him more. His response... his face lit up, he grinned from ear to ear and proceeded to tell me jokes and made me laugh and smile with him. I'm a bit puzzled, perhaps I was hoping for confirmation whether he felt the same or not. I was hoping to hear "Thank you, I'm flatterd, but I'm seeing someone, or, Thank you, but because I'm leaving, it woulnd't be fair to you to start a relationship, or, Thank you, but I'm not interested." I was hoping he would say something so at least I know how he feels. It took a lot courage for me to tell him that I like him and it would have bugged me, had I not. I'm very confused...is he interested, does he like me, or is he just not interested in me? I still see him at the gym, but have been avoiding him. Any insight would be helpful, thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2011): Stop avoiding him, but don't be overly confident to talk to him either. The way he responded, and keeping in mind he is shy, it seems like he likes you. Don't forget shy guys take their time, especially when they really like someone. I would try keep acting myself, you don't want to bring it up again and seem desperate or give him too much power. Hopefully he will wake up soon!
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