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writes:Question:I am in a LDR for 4 years and I had traveled back and forth a lot. Our relationship started right after I graduated, then he moved away. Ever since, I been trying to move in with him and things have not worked out the way I wanna to. The problem is that now my bf is telling me that I have wasted most of my years after graduation stuck on my same job and that I had done nothing to better myself. I told him that the reason I did not move up to another position was 'cause I had always planned to move in with him, so I did not wanted to get a job and have it to leave it. At the same time, taking on a new position would mean not having enough free time to go and see him as often as I've been doing. it is fair for him to make me feel bad about my choices of preferring him than my career? It really hurt me the way he expressed his opinion towards me. I took it as if he were putting me down and like if I were a failure; when I've always put him first. Apparently that is not good enough for him.Don't get me wrong, I have a great career and I get paid very good money, and my career is on the health field meaning I will always have a job. I also do want to better myself, but since we are "moving in together" on march 2009, I was waiting.I also told him that it is OK for him to express his opinion, but just not the way he did. He really put down, and made me cry. It is true, I am always available to him, and he does not appreciate that.What do u all think?
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reader, pepper27  +, writes (13 December 2008):
 Hi Hunny
I think he is extremely selfish in his views, And if this were me Id grab this opportunity to better my career. If this is what you want then do it and let him stew in his own advise sweetheart..You have put his feeling first taking the time and money to visit, This takes a lot and no you cant always do this in a more commanding job..He has sown the seed of doubt and it is not his place to put you down this way love. PLEASE TAKE CARE OF YOU SWEETHEART WITH LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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