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writes: My best guy friend is being abused by a girl. She used to pick me but it stopped by just ignoring her and not reacting at all. But hes not doing what I did. My other guy friend (most of my friends are guys)are standing by him nonstop. But for some reason he's getting mad at me. Like the other day She was picking him again me and my other friend stood up for him. But he got mad at me but not him. Why is he doing this to me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2008): One thing women do better than guys is revenge.
We men usually limit this to physical altercations. Fights. For us there is nothing better then beating the snot through a bully, teaching him that without his friends a bully is a weak and ptheric little excuse for a human being and even calling them human is a stretch of the imagination.
But for women... revenge takes a more personal route. In history women have been known as poisoners, affecting the world in the background... giving them men ideas, getting what they want by manipulation.
What I'm getting at here is this... no teenage guy is going to accept a direct shielding from a woman. To do so would betray him as a guy. Other guys would think he cannot take care of business by himself.
So rather then stand up for him, help him out in your own way by working behind the scenes. Humiliating the bully, destroying her ability to function well amongtst her peers.
Once she is alone and has no other bullies to turn to, no one worshipping her out of fear... it is safe to forgive her. Befriend her... and hopefully she'll grow out of the bully phase.
And all of this without putting the boy's suggested manhood into question at all.
Aof course, maybe I'm just getting ccarried away because I trully despise cowards that need a gang to do to one person what I could do to them alone if I ever chose to.
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reader, ChiRaven  +, writes (29 July 2008):
 I agree. It's a guy thing. He can't seem to be hiding behind a girl at this stage of his life. Too unmanly. Butt out for now. Let your friend know you support him and think the bully is a first class bitch. Sympathize because she used to pick on you, but don't get involved. Let him handle her himself or with help from his male friends.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (29 July 2008):
Because you are a girl.
He can't get a girl to stand up for him! That would make him less of a man!
Yes that's really stupid but that's what he feels and you have to respect that. Let his guy friends shout at this girl, you can just sit there and smirk quietly at everything she says. That will piss her off but not too obviously that your guy friend will notice and get mad.
Good Luck!! xx
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