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writes: hi there, my partner has been married before for ten years and he had 2 kids with his ex wife. i proposed to him on our anniversary and he said yes but a couple of weeks after that i asked him if he really wanted to be engaged to me because i wasnt allowed to tell anyone for at least 6 months and he said no not really and i asked him if he would ever consider marrying me and he said no. i only want to get married once and i feel that it cant be anyone else but him he is my soul mate. is there any compromise or something i can do or discuss with him to see if there is a possibility. please help me i feel shut down. thank you very much for listening and paying an interest.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2006): he's just not that into you...heard that expression before? he doesn't sound interested in giving what you want in addition to marrying you being something he wants. something's missing. if you want a guy that wants to marry you and you want to get married someday, perhaps you should reconsider your options in choice of candidates.
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reader, xxcat +, writes (1 September 2006):
 hi, it was dream of mine to get married but now i dont care about that any more, if you both love each other and want to be together a pice of paper isnt goin to make it any better. Try to put this behind you as long as your happy & inlove dont worry, you never know one day he might surprise you.
relax hun.
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reader, xxcat +, writes (1 September 2006):
hi, it was dream of mine to get married but now i dont care about that any more, if you both love each other and want to be together a pice of paper isnt goin to make it any better. Try to put this behind you as long as your happy & inlove dont worry, you never know one day he might surprise you.
relax hun.
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reader, snowbird  +, writes (1 September 2006):
 I do hope you have discussed with him how you are feeling - you poor girl, you must be feeling awful..Why on earth would he say yes, and then change his mind? Perhaps he was taken by surprise by your proposal, and got cought up in the romance of it all..This is a BIG decision, and not to be taken lightly, he ought to realise that.
And why the '6 month rule' - how come you were'nt allowed to tell anyone - has he told you - the reason could be linked to that in some way??
Many questions hang in the air here, and if he is truly your soulmate, there really should not be secrets between you..could it be that you have a suspicion what his answers may be, therefore have not dared ask?
Ask him, and if, only if, you are satisfied with his answers, and still regard him as your soulmate, perhaps you can just live together for now, it may well be if he has said yes once, he just might change his mind (again) one day...but don't set your heart on it. Hope all goes well for you, please let us know how it goes! Take care, it's not necessarily the end, and you can't depend on a marriage license to keep you together, only your two hearts can do that.
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