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writes:well, i know this sounds stupid. but when i was like 5ish i pinky promised my parents i wouldnt kiss anyone till i was married. i am a christian, and proud(: but i kinda think its stupid.what do you think about this. is it stuupid? my friend told me that by the time im 20 ill be so horny(eww, i hate that word) ill marry any one just to kiss them. i kinda think its true though. oh and i never break a pinky promise, i never had. lol!so i have two questions1. is this normal not to kiss a guy cause like all my friends have kissed someone and im gonna feel left out.2. How can i be proud of not kissing someone when everyone is making fun of me! Please and thank ya:)
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reader, toucan20 +, writes (31 January 2010):
toucan20 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionto every one, no i didnt not say kissing was against my christian values, and a guy that just wants a girl to kiss her is not the kinda guys i like, nor will be the ones i date. so just dont go there. and to another answer, i wouldnt marry a guy just because he was a good kisser. and to another, i am most deffinatly going to keep this promise, only because if i broke id be lying which is a sin. and they didnt make me, i chose too. and so did my brother. and to another answer: well duh religion has ahold of this country, especially me. Christians' god is actually real(not trying to offend anyone) and there is no problem in obeying your lord and savior, on the other hand. i know kissing isnt wrong, and my mom has told me that, but i never break a promise. so just keep your negitive comments about this to your self, all i asked was if it was stupid. i was kinda looking for a no, looks like most off you people have no self respect...
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2010): Give it a year and you will have had at least two kisses, I am sure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2010): Sex should only be held out until you and someone else are in love so fully, that sex is the most natural and beautiful way of showing it.
Kissing... hell, kiss anyone you like.
Religion has far too much power over people even in this century.
It should exist only as a guideline to help people if they feel they need moral guidance. Not a strict rule-book with eternal consequences.
Flynn 24
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (31 January 2010):
 I was not only a devoted Christian, I was a strict Southern Baptist, and I never dreamed of waiting until marriage to kiss someone. Kissing does not go against Christian values!! Sex, on the other hand, is something you would be wise to wait for. It's not much fun to have a girlfriend or boyfriend if you can't KISS them. I can totally understand if you want to save SEX until marriage (that's not a bad idea)... but KISSING?? That is CRAZY!!
Did your parents MAKE you promise you wouldn't kiss anyone until marriage? You were five years old, much too young to understand what you were getting into.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2010): im a Christian and i believe kissing before marrige is fine but having sex is not.
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reader, toucan20 +, writes (31 January 2010):
toucan20 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, you see. im like agreeing with my parents because i want that kiss to be special, like and not waste it on worthless boys. and i know a pinky promise was stupid but i have never broken a pinky promise, its weird. lol and to celiaaletta whats wrong with masterbation and sex out of marrige is called imma christian and thats a sin.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2010): I'm sorry but thats stupid! And why did your parents make you pinky promise you wouldn't kiss anybody until you were married? I mean, when a kid's 5, its cute and nobody takes it seriously. I believe in God and Christian values and feel that I have a right to kiss people even though I'm not married (not that I have, even though I'm 17, but I will). In answer to your questions: yes it is perfectly normal- I'm waiting for the right guy to come along and you can stay proud even when people tease you knowing that you're not a tart and are better than them. Good luck
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reader, BGplusMC +, writes (30 January 2010):
I think you should kiss be4 your married sex now thats your choice but you need to kiss to see if your right for each other. Im not saying that other things arent important in a realtionship cause they are. But if you kiss a guy and theres no spark then your love life is not going to be speacil, fun, exciting, thrilling, romantic, trust me the list goes on and on. im not saying kiss the 1st boy you see but dont be so concerned about it either.
Good luck. :)
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reader, Blod  +, writes (30 January 2010):
 I'm Christian and it does seem silly to me. Having sex is one thing, but kissing someone is really going over the top.
At your age it's perfectly normal to have not kissed anyone, even if your friends have. You're still young and you might not have met anyone yet.
Just do what you believe in. Your life is yours. Your parents can't be in control of you forever or it'll drive you crazy and, as you said, you'll probably end up marrying anyone for a kiss. So long as you're happy with what you're doing then no one should be able to make fun of you.
To be honest though, a pinky promise at 5? You can't take that seriously. At that age you're too young to know what you're doing. We've all promised our parents that we'll "never, ever" doing something from moving out to drinking alcohol. Reality is that life demands these things. There comes a point when following a promise becomes ridiculous. Your parents can't hold you to this. There's many worse things you could do than kiss someone. So do what you think is right.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2010): I think that you should do a no sex thing if you want not a no kiss thing , cos taht's just stupid, even if you're a strong christian.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2010): It's pretty ridiculous, to be honest. I dont know how you can marry someone without having even KISSED them first. Regardless of your religious beliefs, there's nothing wrong with the odd innocent snog!
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