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*skacietaylor
writes:I am the queen of non-commitment. Im like the one female on earth that doesnt believe in marriage and children, I dont believe humans are built that way. Ive been in a relationship for 3 months now, and everything is awful but I cant seem to end it! We have zero communication, when I do something wrong he refuses to talk about it or tell me what, and then just acts like a jerk for a few days until hes over it, and then refuses to aknowledge it ever happened. The sex is awful, always has been. He acts like a 5 year old, I constantly feel like Im babysitting. Ive dumped guys for way less in a heartbeat, but for some reason I cant bring myself to end this relationship. Im not in love with him, I dont picture him as part of my future, since he has no goals and no motivation, and I prefer to be single! Why cant I just end it??? Reply to this Question
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reader, mzredbone +, writes (16 September 2009):
I was recently dealing with a situation myself,I felt exactly the same as you,but I had to do some souls searching about mines.I think you should do the same.You cant see him in your futer,awful sex,he is immature,and doesnt communicate well.Gurl let him go immediately,but you cant.Maybe in some crazy way,you are in love.....................
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2009): well if you prefer to be single and he sounds like a jerk anyway, you have no feelings if this is true you could eaisly break up with him... just think about how good you will feel afterwards life would be a lot easier just take the plunge.
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reader, HereAreMyTwoCents +, writes (16 September 2009):
 Maybe your heart is trying to tell you that if you two could just learn to get along like in a normal healthy relationship, that it could then be really good! After all, you said that there is zero communication, and if that is so, then there is also zero relationship. So maybe your heart is saying that "Hey, it's not time to end this. This thing could be good if only you would conduct yourselves more maturely and compassionately with each other." A thriving relationship requires compromises by both parties, and the one that understands this necessity the best, should slowly but not harshly over time show the other person their own role in the give and take dynamic. If you do this for me now, I'll do this for you later! etc. And this applies for sex in the bedroom too. It should also be full of compassion understanding gentleness and give and take. If he acts like a five year old, take the high road and show him how his relationship should be, and maybe he will catch on by example. Have the compassion and the courage to do this. I believe that this compassion and courage is more important than love. Because love cannot happen without compassion and courage. Love is the result of compassion and courage, and the integrity that results.
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