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writes:Is that normal? I've been on SSRIs for about a year and stopped a few weeks ago as i'd had enougn of feeling like a zombie and not being able to sleep at night and just being tired all the time and understanding nothing in my lectures.I'm 20 and in my 2nd year of uni.My dperession is sort of coming back and i just dont care about girls anymore. They just annoy the life out of me and i dont really feel liek talking to them. For example, in one of my societies, one of them was really rude to me and said not to touch her stuff when i wasnt anywhere near it.I've not been on a night out in ages and the last time i went i just didnt really care about trying to flirt with any of them as they're usually just rude.There's a girl who likes me but i just dont really give a **** about anything anymore.I masturbate quite a lot and im worried i may be damaging my penis or sth. Everyone else talks to girls so easily and the girls usually end up just touching them and whatnot.Is that normal and what should i do about it? I just dont see what the big deal is. I'm a virgin and would like to have sex but all the girls in my uni are just drunken sluts who sleep around and i've not seen anybody who is worth it.HELP???
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAh sorry I don't know why but i just read your name as Marmite lol
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reader, Miamine +, writes (3 December 2011):
 St Johns Wort is a natural herb, with few side effects. Not to be taken with anti-depressants or by women on contraceptives, because it can interfer with the way these tablets work and make them less effective. Often recommended by doctors for less severe depression. It works for some people, not for others.Glad you is going to the doctor, even if you are helping yourself, it's always best to tell them. As you have experienced, exercise helped, but when you weren't strong enough, then the depression symptoms came back. That's why you need the doctor to watch and support you.Good luck. (and calling me Marmite made me laugh, laughter is great medicine.. thanks for that)
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for the replies. @Marmite excercies was the main reason i quit them. I could run for about 30 seconds during training and then after that i'd feel like death. My strength is now back up to normal and i can do whatever i feel like.
I've heard of St John's Wort although im not sure whether to take it or not.
I'll have to consult my Dr and see what he says about it.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (30 November 2011):
Flynn is right.. if you don't want the tablets, then St Johns Wort (on it's own) might be able to help. Also running or swimming, some people swear by exercise, helps raise the serotonin levels (happy chemicals) in the brain. But don't cut your doctor out, explain what you are doing. We get confused with depression and sometimes don't make great choices and can't tell when we are sick or well. The standard treatment for depression is tablets and therapy, but some people can do it without tablets, but you have to sleep, eat well, keep fit, and find nice social things to do. You also must monitor your moods and avoid stress of any kind. Go to the doctor and work together on a sensible treatment plan that suits you better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2011): Dude. Chill.The problem here ISN'T the people around you, it's your perception of them. You sound like all you see is rudeness and people out to spite you.You say this girl was rude... could it be that was merely how you took it, how you saw it in your mind?If the anti-depressants helped then get the hell back on them. If not, try talk to your Doctor about other options.I myself swear by St. John's Wort. No one knows why it works, but that thing is a godsend. I used to be much like you and whilst it does not make you feel happy, it keeps you normalised. It stops the depressive feelings from being overwhelming... so instead of feeling like nothing matters, you just feel regular sad. Plus it stops the depression from affecting your happy moments.If you do choose it, be sure to talk to a Doctor cause it can screw around with other meds you might be taking.Of course it may not do anything for you. But it did for me, so I would be remiss if I didn't recommend it.Flynn 24
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reader, Miamine +, writes (30 November 2011):
Yep, either the SSRI's medication or the depression will cut down your sex drive dramatically. Depression causes us to want to be alone, it's part of the condition. As you notice, your're irritable, you get upset over very little things. All signs of depression. You stopped the tablets, the tablets help to control the depression and make you a bit happier, social, and normal. The tablets don't cure depression, but they help with the symptoms so you can get on with your life. Now you've stopped the tablets, all the symptoms are coming back, it's not good to stop SSRI's without the doctors permission. Especially if your taking Exfloor (can't spell it) they have big withdrawal symptoms and can make you feel very, very sick.Forget about girls for the moment, your're not well, you can't think straight. If you start a relationship, you'll be pushing your girlfriend away, and you'll feel stressed out by trying to act normal.Masterbation is ok, you need relief. But not too much, be careful, sometimes we use masterbation like a baby uses a dummy, for comfort, to hide away from the world and escape from dealing with things.You need to go back to your doctor immediately. Your're getting sick again without the pills. Not all pills make you into a zombie. Exfloor (whatever it's called) worked for me (a little bit) and made me laugh all the time. It took me a year and about 20 different types of tablets to find the one that made me feel great.I've found a wonderful website, http://www.patientslikeme.com/ it helps you to keep a record of your depression and how you are feeling. It also gives information on your condition, and they have lots of other people who are in the same situation as you. Go there, and register and then fill in a mood sheet, it'll calculate just how badly you are feeling and see if your getting better or worse if you use it regularly.Don't worry, depression can be lifted and controlled and life will be happy again, but you can't do this alone.
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reader, synchrohobbit  +, writes (29 November 2011):
 If this is the only thing being affected by being off medication in your life, than I think whatever you are doing is just fine...sex is a fun but not necessary part of modern society. However, these feelings don't just generally come in one spot and I would assume there is some negativity and depression in other areas of your life. I have been on an SSRI of one sort or another for sixteen years, and I wouldn't ever think it was a good idea to go off of them because I never felt like crying. There are a ton of new drugs from the past decade, MAOIs, atypical antidepressants, you name it. Ultimately it is up to you, but balancing yourself out neurologically can really make a difference.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2011): "I'm a virgin and would like to have sex but all the girls in my uni are just drunken sluts who sleep around and i've not seen anybody who is worth it."
Very astute observation. Until you meet a girl you believe is "worth it" keep on masturbating. It's the safest sex possible and the most fun you can have by yourself.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (27 November 2011):
 Everything you have explained is normal. Honey you are not going to damage yourself from masturbating to much, so just enjoy and and don't worry. Obviously you have no interest in being in a relationship at the moment, there is nothing wrong with this, you are probably just not ready or else you have yet to meet that girl who you like and who you want to be with. You don't like anyone at the moment so you feel there is no point. Which is a good trait to have, good for you for not sleeping around. Holding your virginity for someone special is such a good thing to do. So don't rush these things. Just take your time and see if there is any girl that you like the look of. But really there is no rush with these things, you are still young so just enjoy your life other ways if it is not about girls.
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