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writes:I'll start at the beginning....My friend (Becca) had an intense crush on a guy (Ryan)beginning last October. She's incredibly shy, so I decided I'd help. I arranged a time for them to meet. The more these occured the more Ryan and I talked. And The more she talked about his great qualities the more I realized I might like him. I decided to forget those feelings and continue to try to set up this relationship. Around December they began talking a lot on IM and became really close(friends)Mid March he told her online how much he liked one girl, and he asked her how to get her, he eventually told her it was me and he wanted to ask me to prom. She told me immediately and I felt awful but she ordered me to go with him, so I did.We've been dating ever since prom. And until 2 months ago I still felt guilty. I love him, but the problem is I'd been so busy with school sports I wasn't around much and I'd always hear about them hanging out or going to parties and talking about reaaally personal stuff, sometimes not even from them. Now my sports are over but they still hang out and I just hear about it afterwards. I don't fully trust her b/c she's said she'd pick his friendship over mine. I'm worried that something might be happening between them. Or I may be cut out of his personal life b/c he's telling everything to her.I've told both Ryan and Becca how I feel but neither seem to understand or know how to help so they ignore it.What should I do?
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reader, Its_X_ +, writes (20 October 2007):
 It definitely sounds fishy. No real friend would go behind your back with your boyfriend and not tell you. I've been in this situation before. I found out after a friend asked me if me and my boyfriend had broken up because she went to my friends house and he was there. Its not right even if it is just "friendly" or whatever. You need to talk to him and lay the rules down. Tell him he needs to tell you whats going on or you're over. After that you need to talk to your friend. You need to use what your boyfriend said against her so she can't try to weasel her way out. You need to be tough, and I believe you can do it. I've been through the same thing so I know how you feel. Good Luck.
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reader, angel of love  +, writes (19 October 2007):
 Well what you need to do is sit them down together and talk it through...you all need to put all the cards on the table and figure things out...the longer you put this off the more you are going to beat at yourself wondering what's going on...you need to know the facts and you need to know them soon or else someone is bound to get hurt one way or the other...just remember...take it easy and discuss it in a manner that no one will get angry or friendships won't get lost...hope i helped...amber
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