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writes:Ok im really depress and this ant good for me cause Im 37wks pregnant by my boyfriend that I been knowing since I was 16 now im 21 im so deep in love with him but he left me 2wks ago :"( im cryn over him most of the day he dnt texts are call mei didnt do nothing for him to leave me.he just a @$$ ho€ for leaven me while pregnant. Although I hate him for what he has done...but I miss him so much :"( .... How do you move on when you still in love an pregnant with his babygirl????? I feel like I wont love agian cause I pictured my life with him :/
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2011): This may sound mean, but I have been through something very similar. This is how I would handle it. I would text him or leave a message and tell him if he doesn't answer in 12 hours then you are going to call the cops for a safety check (you are worried and looking out for him) and if its just because he wants to duck his responsibilities (scared or not, you have the upper hand in this) tell him then you will see him in court.
This is not your fault. You are in a bad situation and you need to take control of this, so you can focus on you and your baby girl. Its not fair that when he gets spooked he gets to run and you have to live without any support from the babies dad. Its going to hurt, but you have to remain focused on different things. Don't let friends leave you alone. Be around other people they will keep you distracted. You can do this. Be strong and keep me posted.
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reader, fi_the_tree  +, writes (8 March 2011):
 I think he got scared at the thought of having a baby and just upped and left. This must be horrible for you, your hormones and emotions are all over the place due to being very pregnant. Unfortunately there isn't much you can do. Just focus on the fact that he left you weeks before you were due to have his child!! That's disgusting in my opinion!!! You may miss him, but this sorry excuse for a man doesn't deserve your tears or heartbreak.
Once baby arrives you will have your hands full and as long as you have family and friends around you for support, you'll get through this. Focus all your love and attention onto your baby girl, she will be the most precious gift you will ever have. I really hope things work out for the best for you, stay strong and don't contact him, he doesn't deserve it!!
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reader, ??22475  +, writes (8 March 2011):
Don't be discouraged. If someone wants to go, let them go. Because things will always look up. Don't be waiting for him to come back. There is a chance that he won't. You're 37 weeks pregnant and you know who needs you??? You're baby does and she needs a a strong mother to take care of her. What's wrong with being independent??? My mother raised me and my brother both by herself and I'd say she did a hell of a good job you should do the same. Don't say you won't love again because thats just not true. I said that once and now I'm crazy for my friend falling in love is so easy that you don't even need to try it just happens. Any guy who abandons his child is low and not worth the time. Although it may suck right now you can't lose hope. You'll have a baby that loves you more than anyone in the world :) and you know that kind of love is forever. She's going to love you unconditionally and you should do the same for her. If he decides to come back thats your call but you know don't forget about your baby right now she comes first. Be strong for her and yourself. Attachment is probably the thing that kills us all when we fall in love. You see the one who makes you feel like you're in heaven and suddenly they leave you. That happens too many times. This guy who was my elementary school crush says he likes me and will think about being my boyfriend if I have sex with him. Then I thought to myself do I really not love myself that much? Will I degrade myself to the point where I have sex with some jerk who probably won't stay with me so I said no. All I could ever do was think about him and I was sad that I had said no. But you know I stopped thinking about him and I got closer to my other guy friend and he was everything the other guy wasn't. He respects me, wants to talk to me, worries about me when I'm sick, and is such a great supportive guy which is why I like him so much. Have I planned out my future with him? A little bit :P But I haven't set my heart to it and I wont let myself get hurt like that again. So don't be discouraged things will look up. I hope you be strong :)
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