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writes:It is a relationship question, but not like boyfriend or girlfriend - just friends. I only have friends in their mid twenties (guys) and girls at least two or more years older than me. I'm sixteen. Is this normal? My oldest friend is hmm...in his forties, just had his first kid. At school I'm more friendly with the teachers than I am with the people I hang around with., and the teachers always rely on me for things (sometimes they rely on me too much!)I don't know, I just feel as if I don't belong in my time, but theirs. I feel as if they SHOULD be my friends. I cannot tell you how much it shocks me when a new teacher who doesn't know me gets cross at me and gives me detention - because I'm so used to being treated as an adult! I mean - I've had staff members think I was a supply teacher twice.One thing that I find quite funny (though...thinking about it he really shouldn't have done, it was unfair to the others) was when I came in late with four other girls (it was icy on the paths), and he got cross. But then later, one of the girls told me that he gave a late to all of them but not me. I'm friends with him I guess, I didn't think THAT friendly though...maybe he just sees me as mature enough to realise my mistakes without getting punished. :/Teachers always ask me to lead fundraising events, sales, talent shows etc. I've even had interviews with School Governors concerning £57,000 towards the area.Why don't I make friends with people my age? (I have a few but they are more mature than most and they aren't close friends).One thing that really pains me is that all my intimate friends are abroad. Italy, Australia, Sweden - I get so lonely! I'm only sixteen...I don't have enough money to go and see them. Usually I rely on my father, who travels to Italy and Sweden...but Australia and Texas no chance.Anyway...am I normal? Or am I strange for making friends with forty year olds and twenty year olds etc?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes! Exactly! And the weird thing is is that...some of the kids my age are nice people. I know that - but I can never properly connect with them. (I will post more comments soon but for now I am very busy! Thanks you three!)
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2010): Hello 16 year old. Of course you're normal! Probably more normal than adults my own age. I'm a 31 year old woman and reading your post I make my problem really look shameful. I'm in love with a 16 year old man. He's very smart, congenial, funny and kind. You kind of sound like the character I saw in a movie called "Rushmore." A young person who is wordly, open-minded, and open to friendships. Having friends who are older than you is completely normal. If you are connecting and sharing your friendship with older people, it means you do share the wisdom and maturity of those senior to you. And that also means, you are interesting for them, that age doesn't matter to have friendship with you:)You're just cool! I understand why you would feel this way, I was like you when I was in high school, I was a writer in the highschool newspaper and I spoke to all the school leaders and students who were up to 18-19 years old, when I was just 14! You're also thinking about your place in your life and how people view you, it's completely fine, and I think at 16 if you can be so worldly (have friends abroad) and curious about life and be so active in a positive way, then you're already a young adult! Keep up the good work at school, your extra curricular activities, and all your friendships!
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reader, SaphiraGold16 +, writes (19 February 2010):
 I'm the same I'm 16 and very mature, I find most people guys and girls my age very immature and I can't get on with them at all.
The youngest guy friend I have is 21 and the youngest girl friend I have is 22.
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reader, imjustmetheresalotofus  +, writes (13 February 2010):
It's ok! By the way I'm 31!LOL! I was just like you. Your just more mature than all the other 16 yr olds. My daugthers only 9 and she doesn't like the company of the other kids either. You probally don't enjoy the same things they do either. Petty squabbling and such. I had a rulles when i was growing up, didn't date anyone in the same school. Didn't like all the drama. I had some friends the same age but they all had old souls. Funny thing is now I'm with 22 yr old. He has an incredibly old soul, like about 60. That is very weird for a guy since they usually grow old not up. That is probally why your guy friends are so much older than your girl friends, takes them longer. I'd guess your pretty smart, there is only so much books can teach you, what you long for is wisdom. You want to understand what life has in store for you, trying to avoid any pitfalls. The sad truth wisdom comes from making mistakes and learnig from them. Older people can tell you stories and give you insight but to truely know you got to experience life for yourself. Theres nothing wrong with you. Your just ahead of the curve. The only pearl of wisdom I have for you is: Follow your heart and do the right thing. It's always harder but in the long run will pay off. Us older people say things like this because we've traveled the wrong roads and want to see the youth of the world to go where we only imagined.
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