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writes:My boyfriend has recently started his job working down in London, which means he's working away all week and I only get to see him on weekends. I'm finding it really difficult. At first I thought it would make the time we have together more special as we never see eachother so when we do we will make the most of it. But it hasn't been like that. He also just found out that this job is for 6 months as they wont be finishing until June. I don't think I can do this for six months. I'm finding it so so difficult, not seeing him. I think it makes it worse that I have not long moved in with him, into his house, I don't feel at home, I'm always alone and I feel so lonely. It's really getting me down and I don't know what to do. Any help if you're in the same situation or have been?? Thank you x
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reader, Petina57 +, writes (27 January 2016):
 If you think this is the guy for you then you should hold on. Six months won't be so bad if you use the time on your own wisely. Get some friends or family round for a get together. Spruce the house up a bit to make it more your home as well, you're living there , why not? Can you skype him so at least you can see his face and hear his voice. The weekends don't seem to be exciting for you, is this because you are letting him know you aren't happy about the situation. You could try making a big effort on your part when he walks through the door. Go out together or make a nice meal with a pretty table for when he walks through the door. Can you tell if he's missed you lots when you see him. If you can't then that needs addressing as well. Is he working in London to secure a better future for you both? You can't live on love alone, as my mother used to say. Hope this helps
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2016): Consider that he may not be the right guy for you, if all he can offer you are his weekends. You may also need some healthy distraction to keep you busy. Pining and contemplating about your boyfriend all the time isn't healthy for you. When you make a commitment, you have to factor in how much time your partner can devote to being with you. Sometimes people can't work a local 9 to 5.
This could also mean you don't spend enough time living for yourself. Socializing with your friends, following your own dreams, and sharing time with your family. That fills the void when someone you care for has to be away.
You apparently need a boyfriend close-by and working in the same town. Voluntarily taking a job away may be an indication he's focusing more on work, and has different priorities. Following his ambitions and trying to earn a living. You're at the age that you should be doing the same. Go and visit him when you can. Provided his work situation allows for visitors.
If being together is a constant struggle; maybe it just wasn't meant to be. If this assignment is only temporary, you have to hang in there. If you find fun things to do, or work on self-improvement projects during the time you have apart, waiting isn't so excruciating.
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