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writes:A very good friend of mine is very promiscous. She has a very high sex drive and does it like a guy. A few years ago, we were at a party and a guy who liked me was also there. He liked me and I didn't like him coz of his casanova ways. We all hung out and after the party my friend decided not to come home with him and went to this guys place. We never talked about it but I have never trusted her since. We have been friends for years but I now want to give up the friendship because of her ways. Am I wrong? If I'm not, can you give me ideas on how to walk away from this friendship. Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for the great advice. I agree distancing myself is a better approach than confrontation. For those asking if there something else, yes there is. She is now married and has a sexual fling with another guy (several times), and another guy too (when she was 6 mnths pregnant) and it didn't bother her at all. That disturbed me, coz my thing is, if she can cheat and lie to her spouse, I know she can't be loyal to me. She has also slept with two of her friends guys. So all that continues to bother me.
Thank you, and I'm going to do the right thing.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (20 August 2009):
 If you don't like her set of morals and think that will make her less of a friend then maybe you should stop hanging out as much with her.
Some people believe that having the same values and morals is vital to a good friendship. Personally, in my youth I had both very modest friend and some that were definently on the promiscuous side. They sexuality has nothing to do with me and they have always been true friends.
Something else went on I'm guessing.
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (20 August 2009):
 why is this a problem after so much time has passed? Has there been other incidents as well?I mean if this was a few years ago and this is the ONLY incident that has bothered you? I guess I am just not understanding you here. If you didnt like this guy anyway why would you care if she went home with him 3 years ago? Is there more to this story?Please be more specific.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2009): I think it is hard to have a friendship, a proper deep one, with someone who does not share similar moral codes but she is of course entitled to behave how she wants. I also think it would be best for your to gradually distance yourself from her as a confrontation will serve no purpose and you will find new friends who fill her place. Don't feel bad. You are simply maintaining your own sense of self and protecting your boundaries. That is healthy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2009): You don't need to cut her off completely and have a confrontation. Just distance yourself. You have higher standards -- be true to yourself.
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