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writes:i have been married for 21 years.but my husband loves to put objects up his rear end.this goes on ever other night.and i mean all kinds of things.i dont know if this means he is gay or not.but the things all came from the landfill that he works at.also a in 2006 he had to transfer job sites.it was out of state he was there for nine months.two weeks after he came home i broke out.i didnt know anything about std.come to find out five months later went to the dr.and found out i had genitiles herpiee.i asked him if he cheated on me and he said.he tried to tell me he got it from his ex wife in 1982.but everyone i have talked to says no way.he even told me it was in navy med.files.i dont have the files anymore.but we have one child together and she is 21 i had her tested for it and she does not have it.he never told me about it before till i got tested and found out .i can dress sexy for him and ware makeup.and he wont even look at me.if we have sex its just sex.not the kind you should have when your married.so i am leaveing.just needed to know what someone else thought.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok i had a talk with my husband tonight about what he was doing.and that he could get any kind of desiess from the things he uses from the landfill.and i told him that i was going to have my obgyn do another std test on me.he was not happy about it at all.he says that his sex life is his bussiness.and i told him its not just yours its mine to and its my health and life we are talking about.he didnt seem to happy about me telling my dr.so i know right there that he dont care about me at all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionfirst i want to say thank you for your answers.also another thing is he always says love you been that way for a long time now. i dont even remember the last time he said i love you not even when we had sex and sence he was out of state in 2006 thats when i think he cheated on me because when he came home two weeks later is when i got the std. we have only had sex maybe ten times sence then. not anymore though.so i do think he loves me but not in love with me anymore and has not been in love with me for a long time.and yes i did say he gets all the things he uses on his rear end from the land fill he works at.anything from table legs to baby toys.and yes my obgyn is going to do a new std test on me.he told me at one time that he wanted to buy a strap on for me to do him and i said no way man your nuts.so if anyone else has answers they would be helpful.and i am leaveing.so if anyone else has any answers it would be of great help.and thanks again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2009): you have been married for 21 years , and only recently got the herpes?
what with him shoving stuff up his backside?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2009): If he knew he was carrying the herpes virus then he should have known how contagious it was and should have told you from the outset so you could make informed decisions and protect yourself if necessary. It doesn't say much for him and how much he cares for you does it. Plus he does not care about your pleasure in bed so I guess this adds to the picture. He may or may not have been carrying it all this time but I still go back to the fact that it would actually be more excusable not less if he had caught it recently and not known therefore not told you. To knowingly not tell you is pretty irresponsible as he, at that stage, already knew the source of it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2009): Most of us consider monogamy to be part and parcel of marriage. We have unprotected sex with our spouse because we trust them to not bring home exposure to a disease. If you've been married that long, your trust has been violated.
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