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writes:I have been with my boyfriend for three years now. And in those three years I have only met his mother twice, and his other family a few times and haven't spoke all that much to them. The reason I haven't made much of an effort is because I've always found his family really rude and the complete opposite to me. I am very shy and I've always felt uncomfortable around them because they're loud, rough and a few takes drugs, completely not what I like, so I have tried to avoid them. Well my boyfriend's brother has recently got a new girlfriend and she is making more of an effort with his family than I ever have, she's adding everyone on facebook and organizing to go out etc. My boyfriend's sister is even going to the pub with her already and she's never been with me! I feel terrible, and left out. I guess I just feel silly now for not making the effort and feel I should have. Should I start now or will I just look like I'm trying to fit in? Thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2012): Trust yourself, if you are not like them, then let it be.
If you don't want to be friends with them, then don't be. People are so different, you can't be friends with everybody. So what they are your boyfriends family. Just be polite and nice to them, that's all that is required of you. And the fact that they do drugs is alarming.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (4 June 2012):
 I don't think anybody should go out of their way for getting along with people who are into drugs. If there's really no way to avoid meeting them socially once in a while - sigh. So be it . But making a purposeful effort to hang out with them more.... why in the world ? And if you can't see it this way now, I bet you will once you have kids.
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (4 June 2012):
I don't think anybody should go out of their way for getting along with people who are into drugs. If there's really no way to avoid meeting them socially once in a while - sigh. So be it . But making a purposeful effort to hang out with them more.... why in the world ? And if you can't see it this way now, I bet you will once you have kids.
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reader, licallion  +, writes (3 June 2012):
Well... firstly you didn't like the family in the beginning do you like them now..?
maybe his brothers new girlfriend is also loud and outgoing, were you seem to be shy and reserved.
try and make a little bit of an effort on their birthdays and such do it quietly dont make too much of a fuss too soon.
if you want to get "in" with his family you could befriend the brothers girlfriend that way you will both get close to the family
but ask yourself if you really want to first
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