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writes:HiI'm a 27 year old lady and I need help, I have never been in a decent relationship like other people.Whenever I am involved with someone it does not last and it ends up shattering my confidence. I always feel like guys persue me just to sleep with me because they always tell me I have got a beautiful body; which is true.I always attract guys who always leave me emotionally broken, and my problem is I also attract foreign guys and those are the type of guys that want a serious relationship with me, of which tempts me to date them just to feel loved and then dump them because I don't wanna get married to a foreigner and I'm not comfortable with walking with them in public, I always keep my relationships with them a secret.The sad part is my fellow South African brothers never approach me for serious relationships, it's always the illiterate, drunk guys, taxi drivers South African guys that would approach me.But the decent, educated and working guys never approach me, and I would love to get involved with a decent guy as I am working and very educated, and I don't see myself settling for a man that never went to school.Help please.M stranded, I don't know what to do anymore.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you very much, I was actually in denial of my low self esteem. Thank you.
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reader, Keeley345  +, writes (9 May 2013):
Hi, sounds like an awful place to be romantically. What I'm guessing is, you have a type of guy you want e.g someone on your level and lifestyle. However you attract the wrong ones e.g foreigners or low class people. What we look for in a partner isn't always what we get. But this doesn't mean you should lower your standards. A comment you made 'just to feel loved'' worried me abit. Do you generally feel unloved or has anyone made you feel like that? If so, you need to deal with this e.g do some soul searching, work on your selfesteem and seek love from the people close to you e.g friends and family. Most importantly, love comes from within and you've got to love yourself first before anyone can. That takes me to the issue of self respect. Don't date guys for the sake of being loved and definitely don't have sex with them. Self respect remember? In terms of finding men suitable for you, I'd try internet dating or hang out in places where you'll likely meet guys that you like. Also don't be afraid to approach a man that is your type. If you don't ask you don't get. Practice flirting and gain confidence. This will help too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2013): Try internet dating. And chat a lot before you meet him.
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