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writes:is it normal that a girl would just want a hug from her boyfriend rathar than a french kiss ,,you see ,2 of my friends died at a car accident, and i was crying so when we met , i hugged him and i started crying he hugged me back but then afterwards he started frenchkissing me , the hug didn't last for even 2 mins, i don't get it , am i over reacting , is it complicated for him to understand ?.. that i just need a hug i need some one's shoulder to cry on talk about my emotionss,,,, Reply to this Question
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reader, Illithid +, writes (25 September 2009):
 I'm a man, and even I care more about hugs than kisses. I can't remember the last time I got a french kiss, or even a really good regular kiss, but hugs are enough to get me though. And this is coming from a totally straight male.
You're normal, hon. Hugs are love, while frenching is just passion. While there's room for passion, it must never be the foundation, and NEVER used as a show of support or love in pain.
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reader, dearkelja +, writes (25 September 2009):
 He doesn't know what you need. Some of his reaction is reflexive and he truly hasn't grasped the magnitude of your loss. The only way to get this communicated to him is to explain your feelings. He will feel more connected to you when you do and you will share your expectations. You will have many more dark days that he will need to help you through so let him know.
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reader, Red Green 0289 +, writes (25 September 2009):
Immature, and frankly sad... If he reacts defensivly I'd say dump him...
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2009): Then talk to him and tell him about it. Yes some guys don't understand and find it complicated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2009): You were in an (understandably) vunerable position and it seems as though he took advantage of your state. He sounds immature, one-dimensional and quite frankly pathetic. Dump him? x
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