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writes:Well this maybe lengthy but i try to keep it short. I met this guy while separated. I told him I was. He was ok with it we pursue an relationship but i told him slow. Anyway he told me he had three children( girls). All by different mothers. He also told me it could be one on the way. Now Within this relationship I got pregnant twice, but the relationship involved the now new baby momma . the kid turn out to be his. After catching him up with her I decided not to keep the kids. Which I regret to this day. Now Im not a saint I did cheat on him with my X. The issue that Im having is he made it seem like he just love me that it's all about me when I was being honest he was lying talking bout he aint seen or talk to his x. Meanwhile this dude was seeing the x and the child behind my back and sleeping with her. I decided to go through his phone, when i realize he been talking to her and a co worker of ours. Oh yea we also work together. I was honest and told the truth yet he felt the need to lie to me. When i saw the co worker number in his phone I punch him dead in his chest and slap the hell out of him. He beg me the night before to come over but I was sick cause i took care of him that week. but when i went through the phone he was also asking a co worker to see him that night as well that what made me mad to get physical. Not only did I skip school to make him soup and give him meds after i left the baby mama said she brought him orange juice. Now that week early he told me that he wanted me to work it out with my husband I told him why and accepted the fact he broke it off. But that whole week we talked and sexed each other. Only to find out he been playing with the co worker the x and god only knows who else. My car is in the shop mainly from damages he caused from jealousy and so I stayed with him for that week he started hiding his phone not answering it etc,,, Who but his child mother shows up banging on the door like the police. so i get up put my clothes on he outside on the porch talking to her I open the door and look at them she spoke and left. He was dodging her so she decided to pop up but she didnt know i was there cause my car wasnt out there due to it being at the shop. This is my issue I got my divorce papers in the beginning because i felt it was time then little BS started happening. My issue is should I be upset? For I am still legally married but havent stayed with husband for two years.Should I be upset that He was trying to talk to a co worker behind my back but steady sexing me. promising he loves me and been wanting a family with me at the same time sexin his baby mama and lying. Now he wants me to move in with him after all this and I told him no. I cant trust him out my sight. Now My work environment is jepardize cause he was trying to talk to another women and you know how gossip is in a predominately women atmosphere.I mean its horrible and i feel uncomfortable. If i need and want anything he gives it to me , but I cant live my life wondering is he talking to this or that woman. Then to make matters worse his baby mama texted my my phone this morning talking bout she know it was me playing on her phone. Like I aint got better things to do seriously. Then I feel he wants me to move in cause he cant afford the bills by him self. Only because he moved into a house and bought a car where he has to pay a note and insurance. I told him to not get the car to see how the house work first but... he didnt listen. And I knew he was going to ask for help or me to move in. So now he wants me living in there why cuz he love me so .. or because the bills is kicking your behind. What do you think? feel free to voice your opinion because I really need help to overcome this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2011): Well I broke up with him. I miss him. But I believe it was best. He blames me for his cheating
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2011): What a fiasco! I suggest you run away as fast as you can and not look back! Who financially supports the babies he is making with all these women? Who takes care of the child he has custody of? Poor little tyke! I suggest you start seeing a counselor to sort out your behavior. Then, get on some birth control pills to prevent another pregnancy till this man knows what direction he is going. I agree with the above suggestion that he only wants you to help with his financial woes. Life is too short for this drama. i suggest you jump off the merry-go-round you and he are on - and get on with your own life!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2011): I forgot to mention he has custody of one of the kids
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (5 March 2011):
 I think you need to stay as far away from this man as you can. He has four children to four different woman and he also got you pregnant? Yet he is still sleeping around. He is a player and he is only going to keep messing you around. Get out of this now while you can and be glad that you did. He is leaving a lot of woman single mothers while he is still playing the field. This needs to stop he doesnt love you. If he did he wouldnt be cheating on you, lying to you and being sneaky. You will never be able to trust him and he should never be trusted believe me he is taking you for a fool. Yes i believe he may only want you to move in to help him out and look after him. You deserve so much better. Get out now while you can.
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