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writes:Argh this is long but I really would appreciate some outside opinions.I'm a 16 year old, pretty sensible girl. About a month ago my bf of 9 months broke up with me. It was hard on me as I was expecting us to have sex soon as we both wanted to be each other's first. Anyway, he kept hurting me so me and my gay best friend ended up getting drunk in school just to forget the pain our ex bfs were causing us. When I was smashed enough, I don't know why but I went looking for a guy who I have liked for a very long time but ignored my feelings for because he's 2 year's older than me so I assumed he would just think I was stupid, plus I already had a bf at the time I liked him so I just avoided him. But yeah, I found him and he ended up looking after me until I sobred up. During this time we had a really nice chat where I opened up to him so much that I ended up telling him I liked him. He then replied with "I'm very attracted to you, in fact if I was to be with a girl I'd like her to be someone of your qualities and I love the fact that you always put other people before yourself". I went quiet because I really wasn't expecting that, but it felt like he wanted to say something else and couldn't. The next day he checked up on me, but didn't seem all that interested in me. I don't know what he's thinking or if he didn't take me seriously when I said I liked him, but I feel something for him that I've never felt for any guy before and I really don't know how to tell him this. Anyone know what he's thinking or what I can say or do? I really want to go out with this guy, but maybe he's too old? I'm just so confused! Thanks x
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2010): I disagree. Why would he say he was attracted to her just to make her feel better? And if you do put other people before yourself that is a good quality which most guys wouldn't pay attention to. He obviously thinks very highly of you, it's just a question of how he feels about a relationship. Maybe he didn't think you meant it as you were drunk? Or that you're using him as a rebound? My advice would be to talk to him and make sure he knows exactly how you feel. If he doesn't feel the same, it doesn't mean he doesn't have feeing for you, it just means he has a different kind of feeling fo you. x
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (16 February 2010):
 He is not interested. What he said to you may take forever to decipher. But the fact that he didn't back up his statement with "can I see you later?", "would you go out on a date with me" means that he's nothing more than a mentor to you. He has let you down very gently while still making you feel good about yourself.
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