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female
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51-59,
*atheriner
writes:Back again.I have bored everyone with mt tales before of my Husband who cheated lied was not good with my kids he had started to get better on some things not on others when he came out with kids and i he still lookedlike it was a chore. A week last sunday after a few rows as he has started to get jelous over me even though i go nowhere do nothing he said he got no pleasure from going out with the kids and i there was nothing in it for him i flipped threw him and all belongings out. I have heard it a hundred times he tells me he thinks he can do it with kids i take him back he cant again i got sick of merry go round, he is not bad to them directly just cant be bothered which is just as bad in my book.Anyway he has started calling back telling me he cant live without his son and i without us he has nothing i dont doubt thats true but my two kids from my previous marriage are more imp and its them he finds to difficult even though they are fine to him, my little girl is not too bad with him but my boy now dislikes him as he rem how mean he was to us all. My question is how do i stay strong? I get moments of panic where i think i am thirty eight maybe this was my last chance is something better than nothing. Then i feel sorry for him. Then i rem how he threw me aside in past and what it felt like to be with him and my kids and he made the sit feel awful i was on edge. A couple of weeks ago my son said to me on my own why does he have to come when we go out my Husband asked what he said i said i would talk to him later not wanting to speak of my son in front of him or in front of my husbands kids my husband said loudly in front of them all he is just making excuses for his behavior, he then went on to explain to his kids later that my son has issues he is nine. I need to feel i have done the right thing and stay strong how do i do that Reply to this Question
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reader, ladyprestige  +, writes (26 February 2011):
Before your husband, and even before yourself, you have to worry about your children. When you are dead and gone, they will live on and be someone's spouse and replicate the examples that you, as their parent have shown. What would you want to see your children do? What advise would you give them in your situation? That's how you deal with your issue. Remember, children can see mommy's unhappiness. Children remember mommy's hurt. If that man has hurt you in any way, and your children know it, they will resent him for the rest of their lives and then you for staying with him. Do you want your child to ask you later in life, "Why should I respect you? He didn't?" Think about it.
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