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writes:I just found out that my husband is been posting pictures of him and soliciting sex on craiglist. I am disgusted with the fact that he lied and never admitted to anything.He did apoligized after a long argument that we had. I dont trust him in any aspect, but he says his trying and is committed to make things better. I want to leave him but we have a 1 year old, she's in the stage that is all about "daddy". I dont knw what to do, im scared to be on my own since i been with this person since i was 17. I need to find the strenght to leave him but i honestly dont know from where to start. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2012): Don't be afraid to be on your own. That fear is what causes many people to waste their entire lives in crappy relationships.
His apology and claims that he's 'trying' is pretty lame in light of this context. he's just keeping you around for security so his life doesn't have to change, while he goes out pursuing his own gratification. or, once he meets someone new he'll leave you but not until then.
honestly you should leave this guy already. so what if your 1 yr old is always "daddy" this and "daddy" that? he's a creep, we already established that. Shouldn't you want your daughter to have better people in her life as role models than this?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (11 February 2012):
 Do not be afraid to be alone... and NEVER stay with a man for the sake of the children.
just because you don't live with daddy does not mean he can't be part of your daughter's life.
How is he committed to making things better?
are you going to counseling with or without him? is he going to counseling?
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (11 February 2012):
 Since you are married you don't simply just leave, and when you leave it should be forever. I don't believe in leaving as a punishment to reinforce good behavior. I would say a lawyer is the first place to start. Before that weigh in the pros and cons of being without him. You are being very emotional right now. What he did it's possible that you may never forgive him but would your life really be better if you live apart. Give it some time to think about it. Your husband can say all he wants to make things better. The most important thing is: can you still feel sexually attracted to each other?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2012): Was he actually sleeping around or was it some fantasy? Did he meet anyone? If he did then yeah, LEAVE NOW!! Do NOT stay because of the kid. That's my advice. HOWEVER, if he did NOT meet anyone then yeah you should def work on it...because that means he may not want to cheat on you per se, and therefore may love you, but has other issues.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2012): It's perfectly possible to leave him and still have your daughter's father in her life regularly. Invite him over to play with your daughter often.
Promptly tell your husband that you're going to leave him for the disgusting things he's done. Tell him you don't feel the same way about him anymore and you can't live in the same house as him. It's not that difficult.
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