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writes:i am 20 years old and have been with my boyfriend for almost a year now, i recently moved in with him in an upper part of a house. i just had knee surgery and had to quit my job as a hair stylist, its very hard to find a job now so he has been taking care of me because its hard to move about. we have been living in this new place for 2 weeks and already hes having tons of friends over, keep in mind its a 3rd story of a house and is very tiny. i have been forced to mature at around 16 to take care of my baby nephews while my sister was working, and taking care of my brain injured grandpa, so i am over that whole party stage, i did that when i was younger. I was clinically depressed for 2 years, and it seems like its acting up again due to all the stress. but my boyfriend's brother and his friends are moving in downstairs, and both my boyfriend and his brother smoke alot, they are total pot-heads. i want to have a good time, because i am only 20, but it is so hard for me to relax and enjoy my self because of all the things i went through with my family. can anyone give me advise on how to be a kid again and just enjoy life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2009): I don't think smoking pot is the answer. That will just get you a whole other set of problems.
Right now, just try to take it easy as your knee heals up. Then, when it's easier to get around, you could ask your boyfriend to start going out to different places. Just remember that you don't have nephews or a grandpa to take care of anymore, and it's okay to have fun. It's great to be a responsible person, but you don't have to be responsible ALL the time. Try to stay in the moment while you are out; don't keep thinking about things that bring you down.
Unfortunately it seems like you are light years ahead of your boyfriend in the maturity department, and it looks like his smoking is going to get worse with his brother moving in. If you just can't handle it, you should leave.
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reader, burningredphoen +, writes (13 December 2009):
 I've been in a similar but very situation....your early maturity is no longer needed since it sounds like your not taking care of your grandpa anymore....as for a way to relax? You mentioned he smokes pot....try some with him, it will definitely take your mind off things...and you'll learn to enjoy his company more I believe
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