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writes:This is my dilemna. I had been dating a man until thsi past summer, when we for various reasons decided to cool it and remain friends. He is now dating somebody else, and I have to admit I am really jealous and furious about it, and I have let it be known! I want him back! Yes I do! And I have told him this. He said let's wait and see, he does not know what the future holds, and that he is living for today.But here is the kicker. This week, he took me to a really nice store and bought me a really nice coat for Christmas, one that I really wanted! But he is still going out with this other person. He said that he bought me this coat because he still cares about me. I still care about him too. I want to know, what should I do? Should I take him back if the opportunity arises? Should I even hold my breath? While he has been dating this woman still, and I have been deating other people too, I am not happy with the other people, and I think if he were really happy with the other person, he would not be still communicating with me. And I want to know, should I wait it out, or should I just cut my losses? I am confused. Some days, I am all right. Some days, I am crying because I miss him and the times we had. Tell me, what should I do?
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reader, preciouscrash +, writes (19 December 2010):
Well first of all you can not control anybody's decision except for your own. You do need to have a serious conversation with this man. You are extremely vulnerable right now and literally are standing under a disaster waiting to happen if you don't act now. My advice, find out what is up from him now. Tell him no games, sh!t or get off the pot. Seriously, if he still wants to feed you lines about how he cares about you and still wants to see others on the side, it is not worth it. The right guy for you will make you and only you his entire world. Right now it seems crappy of course because human nature is we always want what we can't have and you probably have a few rebounders lined up and are comparing all of them to him which is never a good thing. So talk to the guy and if you don't feel like he is all into you, tell him your done. Then one of two things can happen there, it really will be done or he will realize how much he misses you and come flying back. Go out with girlfriends, enjoy a few dates with fresh faces but never compare. Have fun with your life and if its meant to be it will be. Don't be jealous though honey, if it wasn't that girl, it would be another one. Show him who's boss and that you are definately good without him. Hope this advice helps you.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (19 December 2010):
 Uhm... I would cut my losses. There is nothing particularly confusing in a man who is in a relationship with another woman. He is with her, period. He may not be blissfully happy, sure- but obviously he is not so unhappy to leave her.
I think that he is just keeping his options open with you; and if he does come back, first make sure he has cut his ties with the other lady.
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