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writes:I have been with my guy for going on 2 years. He has a 7 year old son. When we first met I told him I wasn't sure if I ever wanted to be married or have children. But within 3 months I knew that I wanted to be a mom one day. Knowing that he does not want to have anymore children we have thought about breaking up a few times but we are perfect together, and can't stay apart. He has told me that he would marry me in a heart beat but isnt sure if having a child is something he is willing to do, "but maybe oneday" I am almost 29 and I'm not sure if I should wait this out. I love him, his son and his whole family. When he is with his son no one else matters in the world, he continues to remind me that his son will always be number one in his life (and I know that, that is how it should be) I feel he just wants to remind me of my place. How do I know if he really is willing to have another child? And is it worth the risk of staying with him? Reply to this Question
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reader, ShiShisAdvice +, writes (12 January 2011):
 Honey, do yourself a favor, when they don't want another child, they do not, and to try to trick him is the oldest trick in the book to keep him. And all women will tell you it doesn't work. By the by...he doesn't want to have a child with you. You are 29 don't wait find another man. So you don't end up being 44 without a family. O! and that man who swears he doesn't want another one, will surely have one with someone else. Then will you wake up. Learn from my experience. Please. My world is EMPTY w/o child because I thought I could change those men's mind. When a man loves you, he wants to fill you with himself, trust me.
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reader, LeahVictoria  +, writes (11 January 2011):
My dad never wanted to re marry or have more children. In the end he married his girlfriend but said no way to hildren. I think he felt to old plus me & my brothers are older and have moved out.
Anyway they have a 2 year old little girl now.
This is one thing you cant wait out. Obviously you both love each other & cant stay apart. Do you really want to be a mum if this is yes you will have tell your partner that you want a baby 100%. You only feel this way because you have found him.
I can understand how he feels because i myself dont want any more children but if i found someone who wanted a child with me i think i would reconsider. But it would take alot for me to reconsder. Having a baby is hard work and comletely changes your life. Its a big decision to make. You have just made him start to reconsider so be patient.
I hope you both can work this out.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (11 January 2011):
 I guess you will never really know what he will do. I guess you need to act independantly here and ask yourself what you really want in life would you rather stay with this man and live a happy life or go on your own and find someone else who wants a child and lead a happy life with them. The choice is in your hands you need to be able to decide if it is worth ending this relationship in order to follow your dreams of having a child. But dont just wait around in hope that he will change his mind because it sounds to me like his mind is made up.
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