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writes:I have been dating my boyfriend for about 11 months now and things were going great until I had Christmas break from college. I stayed with him and his family for a little more then a month. At first it was really fun and it felt like we were adults and we could do anything together. when it got to a week before break ended he told me that I was keeping him from his friends because I was staying with him and he felt bad because I would just be sitting at home. He said I was stressing him out which makes him mad so he gets angry. he has never hit me just made me cry a few times. I dont really have anywhere to go but my dorm at school and his house with his family so there wasnt anywhere I could stay for the rest of the week. he had school and I just stayed home thinking it could end soon and I dont want it to. now that im back at school he told me I am being to clingy and to tone it down so he doesnt get stressed out so much. I tried talking to friends and family but they dont get it. I know I can be a bit clingy but I just want to be around him and hang out with his friends too. but it seems like he doesnt want me there. I just need to know how I can fix my clingyness without ignoring him and what I should do. That is my question!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2011): Well it doesnt really matter anymore because he just broke up with me. I guess I'll never learn how to do it the right way now.
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reader, PatientlyWaiting1 +, writes (27 January 2011):
This is what you do. No if ands or buts about it. Do not contact him first again!!!!! Let him contact you and you respond. This is how it should go. He text you..then you text him back ONE message only. He calls you...you answer. If you miss it (which you should sometimes), call him back later. I understand how he feels completely. He feels you are smothering him. That is the worst feeling in the world. So listen to him and just stop. Let him go out with his friends. Next time he invites you decline. Tell him you need to study or you are going to be with friends. The goal is to let him to most of the work that way you will not be smothering him :)
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