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writes:I'm a mother of two, my sons are 12 and 15.My 15-year-old son causes a brouhaha wherever he goes, whatever he does. I know teenagers can be a handful, but this goes too far.I've tried everything - cut off pocket money, stopped treats, TV etc. but he still won't stop causing a brouhaha.It's driven me and my husband to despair - and our younger son complains he feels unappreciated.I need to help my son, I've tried but feel like a failure so what should I do? Thanks, Janet
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2009): Teens...it's tough! Could he possibly be ADDH? Sometimes it's more than just behavior problems. You don't really give details on his behavior, so it's difficult to say. But, maybe therapy would help him.
As for your younger son...maybe so much attention is spent on the older one that the younger one feels invisible! Be sure to acknowledge his good behavior!
Also do the same with the older one if there are things he does well. Let him know that!
I raised 3 kids, they are all grown and living on the other side of the country. Only 2 out of the three are in contact with me. The middle child blames me for everything that has ever gone wrong in her life.
It saddens me, but there is nothing I can do about it.
Try to get help for your son before it is too late!
Good Luck!
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reader, 48years  +, writes (10 January 2009):
 I told little sister that her brother was trying to protect her... at least that's how I could interpret the bossiness... and now they don't fight anymore!
Spend time with your eldest-research shows that a teenager's brain begins growing again and causes them to act out in ways they themselves don't understand (remember the terrible 2's?) I told my 16 year old son this, and when he starts a brouhaha, I look at him and say, "Brain spurt again, son?"
What's really cool is when he himself tells me,"I guess my brain's growing again!"
Kids...gotta love em!
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reader, TazzyWinkle  +, writes (10 January 2009):
My brother was the same for a while last year till he grew out of it, and now my other brother of the same age as your son does it too. I can remember being the same when I was younger so I think it's just a stage that many teenagers go through when they feel that "the world is against them". He may grow out of it with or without your help, but there is nothing you can do to stop him. Continue trying to punish him so that as he grows older he realises that boundaries are set for a reason and doesn't continue with his behaviour. Maybe you could reward your younger son's good behaviour to show what your older son is missing out on, as well as making your younger child feel more appreciated. This may also stop him heading the same way as his brother. Just don't believe that you're a failure! My mum's great and she's gone through the same thing as you! It doesn't help much but I hope you don't worry as much now! x
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