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writes:this is a real question im 17 living with a guy 18 years older than me but he doesnt know im 17 he thinks im 20 and well while he is at work i have sex with strange me for money im also pregnant with the guy i live withs baby as i was pregnant before all this started i cant stop now that i have started the money is ok and i feel guilt and nastey and bad but i dont know why i keep doing it to my self its like i dont care anymore whats wrong with me i know i need help but my family doesnt speak to me i just lost my mom a few months back and my father hates me and was beating me before i ran away so what do i do?this is a real question plus the man im living with is about to figuar out my age i know he can go to jail but i dont want him to i love him but i know he wouldnt stay with me if he found out my age anyways so anyway you think of it im screwed im going to be alone with a baby no family or friends and memorys of selling my body can some one help me any advise is wanted what should i do ??i need to get incontroll of my life im not to sure what im doing! i feel kinda numb emotionally and mentally whats wrong with me ?
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reader, WastedLife +, writes (17 May 2008):
Be careful of the idea of taking antidepressants when pregnant - clear it with an MD - they are not recommended for this if avoidable. The whole situation is complicated - just do things one at a time, but don't wait. STOP having sex with strangers, and get help if this is too hard to do alone. It's the most important thing to do right now. Do you intend to keep the baby? How pregnant are you? Deal with this issue quickly too, and get a wiser, older person to help you. If you are going to have an abortion, do it early - the sooner the better. If not, then talk it out with an impartial counselor and make a plan to create a practical and rewarding life. Talk to your guy, and bring him to the counsellor. You can leave out the part about sex with strangers for now, as long as it has stopped and you are STD negative, but you need to work with him on the rest. He had better be your best friend, or you had better get someone who is fast. You need someone that can stay the course with you even though you are all over the compass and the map.You have a hard job to do, and it's YOURS, whether you like it or not, you have jumped into an adult world, created some very difficult adult problems, and need to solve them quickly before they get completely out of hand for everyone.Good luck, PM me if you need to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2008): why the hell do u sleep with people for money while in a relationship? heres a good pointer on getting your life back on track: be honest and faithful to those you love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2008): What the hell is going on with you. Why are you trying to hurt yourself. Why are you treating yourself so badly. You deserve so much more......
You know your not to blame for mum's death. Your family are hurt, and even though they may be angry, they still love you. I don't know what you did. But it's time you started to forgive yourself. I know your mum would. If you believe she's gone to heaven, know that she's looking at you, and what you are doing to yourself with tears in her eyes. Every time it rains, it's your mum crying with love for you.
STOP HAVING SEX WITH STRANGERS.
It's not about the money, it's your way of punishing yourself. You need to go to your doctors and tell him some of what you are feeling. I know your scared, but you don't have to feel this way and you don't need to be alone. Your doctor can help, as I feel you may have depression. Anti-depressants and someone like a psychologist will do wonders for your self esteme, and help you start plans to help repair the damage that was done to you as a child.
Do you want the baby. Are you scared. You must be feeling very alone if your family are not beside you.
Please go to see a doctor/pschologist/counsellor. You need immediate help. I am very concerned about your emotional and physical well being.
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reader, banditsmom1124 +, writes (15 May 2008):
 for help w/the baby issue id call the woman's care center or a wic office. they can help w/nutritional support, emotional support and more than likely can guide u in handling ur legal issues.
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reader, WastedLife +, writes (15 May 2008):
First thing, stop having sex with strangers immediately and get an STD test! This may be risky for you, but it is terribly risky for the baby! If this was found out, you could be called an abusive mother and lose your child, or worse. Also, it's not right to expect a man to work himself to death for you and your child and then sleep with strangers during the day. It's unloving, disrespectful, and could well cause him to disown both of you and leave, regardless of the legal consequences.I don't know what state you are in - 17 is legal in many states, but not all. If you are married to each other, then the law usually doesn't get involved. He is old enough to know better, but you deceived him about your age. You have a mess and it'll get worse unless you deal with it now.Is there a trustworthy person you can talk to about this? You do need help and there are a lot of smart folks on this forum, but you need someone to talk to in person that you can trust. How far along in pregnancy are you? There are lots of things to deal with, but first, take care of yourself and the pregnancy, and if you intend to get an abortion, do it quickly. Most important - stop sleeping with anyone except the father. Does he know you're pregnant? You need him on your side much more than most folks do. Good luck.
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