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writes:Hi,I would just like some inspiration advice please. Over the period of a few years, I have just become very lazy...sleeping all day, doing nothing when I'm actually up, and am thinking about jacking in my degree.I have no girlfriend, and haven't had one for many years. I have hardly any friends, and in all honesty have lost all drive for eveything. I need inspiration. I know *I* have to do something about it...but any words of advice as to how I can get my life moving in the right direction again? How can I find a drive to stop being so lazy??
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reader, bfire  +, writes (5 August 2008):
Hey I feel you.
I don't really like my major at my University and haven't had a girlfriend for 5 years. The girlfriend thing never bothered me too much until I realized I am 23 years old and really have no relationship experience, this includes sex experience. Also when I realize lots of people do have this, I wanted what they wanted...what can I say...
For me, I actually didn't really realize it until I studied abroad. I lived abroad for a year and saw the other exchange students get girlfriends but I remained single. I love the local girls, their appearance, but I just don't know how to move beyond friends with a girl. I am tall, handsome, and considered a 'nice guy' whatever that means. It is almost time for me to leave so I missed my chance here at having a girlfriend. I did travel a lot and do other things. I had quite a bit of time to think.
It is still hard for me to wake up in the morning because I just have nothing to wake up to, I don't want to face the loneliness that I feel. I waste lots of my time doing nothing. But this is not going to help me find a girlfriend and feel any less lonely, if anything it will just make me worse off.
My best advice is realize what you are doing isn't going to change your life. You will be lonely and never happy with your life until you start doing something with it. Change it! Don't wait till tomorrow, do it now! It can't happen overnight, it is a slow process, but stop procrastinating and do what you want. If not you won't be happy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2008): Hi Lazy bones! ha! ha! ha!You have taken the first positive step by recognizing you are been a lazy git! Life is for living and enjoying and i think you need to have a clean out! clean yourself up first, get up nice and early, shower, breakfast cook it yourself, put clean clothes on and think where do you want to be in a few years?Ask yourself are you a family man? do you really want a serious girlfriend to settle down with now? if not.. then are you a travelling man? do you want to experience new things in life, make new friends, do you want adventure? Do you want to change your life entirely and say goodbye to your present way of life? Do you have a dream that you could make happen? are you been true to yourself with the degree that you are doing at the moment? can you finish it then get a career development loan and jet off to put your training into practice? or do you really want to do something different? have you got the balls to take risks and enjoy life's challenges? or will you sit back and let life pass you by because you have got stuck! you are stuck in a situation that you need to break free from, you need to breath new life into your veins and look the world right in the eye and LIVE a full happy life full of adventure, be a free spirit maybe you are one and this is the transition stage...the caterpillar does not know it will become a butterfly!!!!! Stop been a lazy git and start to grow into the person you were born to become.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2008): Just imagine where you'll be in ten years time. Carry on like you are and the chances are you'll be living in a squat looking and smelling like a vagrant, believing that the whole world owes you a living.
The other side of the coin is that you could be a successful businessman with a beautiful house, flash car and a wife to match.
Life is what you make it. There's only one person that can decide your future and that's you, so get off your arse and do something constructive with your life instead of squandering your future by being a deadbeat no-hoper with no ambition and no interest. Buy yourself an alarm clock and use it.
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