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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hi, I m 27 yrs. old, I was having an affair with a boy in our nearby relations when I was in class 12th and it last for 4 yrs. Suddenly, something happend and I started quitting with that boy and started giving him indications for that. I didn't talk to him for atleast 1 1/2 years but after that he again come in contact as he is in our nearby relationship but I have always told him that I m not interested in him and would not marry him but he has never taken this seriously. He started calling me on daily basis and said pls. talk to me for some time on regular basis and this some time converted into 6 years and regularly he called me and I was attending his call as a formality sake. Now, I m getting marrd (arrange mrrg by parents) to a boy and the other boy is after me for getting mrd. I have not told him yet I m engaged. My whole family knows about this incidence. Now, I am afraid and very-2 much worried. Since, I m going to marry an unknown guy and I m hiding this incidence from him bec's I cant disclose the reality. I m disturbed that whether I m doing a correct thing or not and will this become a problem in near future? Pls. help me and guide me what shall I do so that my mrg would remain safe.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2007): Hi Love,
Tell him you no longer wish to accept his calls as you are engaged, And it is not correct behaviour towards your husband to be, That you wish him well and you are very much looking forward to your wedding.
If he continues change your number love and dont reply to any other form of contact he may try, if he respects you he will do as you wish. Take care with love mandy xxxxxx
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (13 November 2007):
 You tell him in a matter of fact way that you're getting married. Tell him you're already engaged and you're looking forward to your forthcoming marriage. Do NOT answer his phone calls or emails "for formalities sake" at all as this will only encourage him and give him hope. If need be then change your number and block his emails. He'll soon get the message.
You haven't done anything wrong, it's HIM pursuing you that's the problem here.
Eve
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