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writes:I'm 26 my girlfriend is 21. We're doing quite well together, going on 2 years. I've been wanting to join the Marine Corps for a few years now. I have a son with my ex and I want him to have someone to look up to. My current job not only isn't paying the bills but after 3 years I'm not satisfied. As long as my son has a better future I'm not worried about what happens to me. I want to provide more for my son and in the near future, a family with my current girlfriend. I want to grow as a person. And just do something more with my life. I had read about the Marine Corps history, the lifestyle and such. Have two friends who are Marines. Anyway, my girlfriend said she will support me no matter what. (Her brother's a Marine who has served in Iraq. So she knows what it's like to have a loved one in the military) This is good, but I'm just concerned that this may be harder for her since I'm her man. She would prefer me to join the National Guard or Marine Reserves. All in all, I'm going to do what I desire to do, I'd just like to hear some feedback. From those who have been in relationships while serving 4 years in the Marine Corps. Or those who were home waiting for their loved one.
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reader, topshot_1  +, writes (18 June 2012):
I'm a Marine, been in for 17 years active duty. I see this all the time and it's gonna be tough my man. The reality is you will be away from her through boot camp 3 months, MCT/SOI 1 month, MOS school 1-6 depending on job school. After all this then you find out where you're getting stationed. Can it work? Yes. The outcome all depends on both of you, not just her. People's outlook changes when they are exposed to a different environment. It's not gonna be easy man, but you can make it happen. In the long run if it's meant to be it will make your relationship stronger and will definitely make you a better person. Semper Fi brother!
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (12 May 2012):
 Being a military girlfriend isn't easy at all. Having a brother serve in the military IS NOT the same as having a boyfriend or husband in the military.
You will be stationed at a base a considerable distance from her. Is she willing to be in a LDR for years to come? Depending on your rank, it is possible to live off base and to shack up with her...but it would money coming from your paycheck. And while the military is a stable job, it doesn't pay all that much for family (unless you became an officer).
Then there's the promiscuous reputation that military men and even women have. Not that I'm saying you're going to cheat on your girlfriend, but they are lots of military personnel that are hardly faithful to their girlfriends or wives. Hopefully you two have a solid foundation of trust.
Deployments are long and difficult..there's the constant fear if you're going to get a knock on the door from soldiers telling you your husband was killed in combat or hurt by a roadside bomb and you need to board a plane to Germany immediately. She won't get to hear from you as much as you two would like. Internet connection is pretty spotty over there and the landlines phones are always tied up with other soldiers calling their loved ones too.
I'm a Army wife and it's not an easy life. I chose to be a part of it, because that's what my husband wants to do and I support his decision.
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