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writes:Re submitt question on my internet friend,I found this person on a looking for friends site , that was all i wanted just someone to e mail.I retired six months ago so i was bored i just needed someone to talk to. Nothing sexual i just wanted to find a genuine friend . We both seem to have a lot in common thats why i thought that we were getting on so well. Theres just this nagging doubt that iam unsure about with him . I thought i believed everything that hes told me but iam having my doubts. We both agreed from the start that it would just be a friendship nothing more. Maybe i am becoming to obsessed with him. its upsetting me that i may loose our friendship. Reply to this Question
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (16 December 2009):
 I don't know exactly what you are asking. Do you want more than a friendship with the guy?
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reader, Cupid's Girl  +, writes (16 December 2009):
I've been through the same situation one time. He and i started to chat as friends but eventually we became obsessed with each other. He was living in the US and i was living in Europe. He was married with a wonderful woman and had a small child. I was single. We were chatting and chatting, and after a couple of months we became a bit more intimate and the two-way-obsession started. He realized first that this thing went out of control so he started to communicate less often and after a few weeks we stopped any kind of communication.
That was the right thing to do. Because we both started to live again in the real world, not in a virtual one.
Through this experience, i realized that since you can not see the faults of the person you chat with, it is very easy for your mind to play tricks on you and regard this person as ideal -and become obsessed.
I believe it would be much better for you to find friends through a hobby. Friends who can interact with you and look you in the eyes and you can go together for a walk or have a nice cup of tea.
I really hope that helps.
Take good care.
Regards
M.
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