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I need some advice on how to end this nightmare

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Question - (17 February 2010) 3 Answers - (Newest, 17 February 2010)
A female United States age , anonymous writes:

I am in a bad spot in my life right now. Everything seems to be going wrong in every direction. I am divorced over 45 and not happy. I started seeing someone who what it thought was getting out of his marriage but over 2 years later he still hasent. I am trying so hard to end this but I am very upset over the whole thing. I fell for him in a big way but I know its going nowhere. I need some advice on how to end this nightmare. I am so depressed.

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A female reader, Laura1318 Malaysia +, writes (17 February 2010):

Laura1318 agony auntLet go. Why do you cling to pain? There is nothing you can do about the wrongs of yesterday.

It is not yours to judge. Why hold on to the very thing which keeps you from hope and love? - Leo Buscaglia.

This is a great quote and hope that it helps in your healing's.

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A female reader, Laura1318 Malaysia +, writes (17 February 2010):

Laura1318 agony auntYou can't change the past but you can change for the future. You made some mistakes and the only thing you can do is to learn from them.

Do not be too harsh in judging yourself. You are only human and bound to make mistakes.

Forgive him and yourself and move on with life.Sometimes ,things just happened for a reason.

Let the past go and live in the present.

Be thankful for the hard times in your life.

Try not to look at them as bad things, but as opportunities to grow and learn.

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A male reader, CaringGuy United Kingdom +, writes (17 February 2010):

You need to step right back from everything and spend time on yourself. This man who is still married isn't going to leave. You're just a mistress to him. You need to stop seeing him and you need to cut all contact. Then sit down with a piece of paper and a pen and start writing what you want to do. If you want a new career, retrain. Start a new hobby, go out with a few friends. Just spend some time alone really looking at your own life and having some fun for yourself. Build up your esteem and your confidence, and then you'll be in a better position to meet a guy who isn't just using you. Spend time on your own life.

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