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writes:I'm interested in online dating, and want some advice as to how to go about it. Frankly, I am a novice to dating in general and would like some advice. Also, please don't post answers saying NOT to do online dating. Reply to this Question
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (14 October 2010):
 I met my now boyfriend online over a year ago :) Before him I talked to a lot of guys online and met a few others that didn't work out.
My advice is:
1. Don't have high expectations
Don't go on there expecting that the first man you meet will be your prince charming...he won't.
2. Don't take things too personally when first chatting to someone. If you don't like what they have to say, etc, you can just stop talking to them.
3. Don't give out information about where you live and work, or anything that might identify where you are
4. Ask direct questions in the first few emails...this will often help weed out the guys you don't want. If you're looking for a relationship don't be scared to say so...the guys looking for just a fling may cool down and stop wasting more of your time
5. Also, ask them when their last relationship was and how long it was. Many guys online are fresh out of long-term relationships and looking to heal their wounds...don't be anyone's rebound.
6. Beware of guys who take too long to respond to your emails...they're usually not that interested or have many other girls going at the same time
7. Once you've established that a guy seems genuine and is looking for the same things you are, and you thing you might like him, arrange a meeting as soon as you can. There is no point in emailing/calling for months, building things up and then finding out you're not as compatible as you thought.
6. Meet in a busy place and have somewhere to go after the date
7. If he doesn't call or message soon after the date (I give it a day or two...no more) he's not that interested.
8. Trust your gut feelings...they're usually right. If something seems off, let it go.
9. Have fun and treat the whole thing as just another experience :)
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reader, parentalcontrol +, writes (14 October 2010):
 I met my boyfriend through online dating almost a year ago, and we're together and happy...I would recommend trying a site that has a good reputation. don't lie about yourself on there and puff yourself up to sound more interesting, because the right girl will come along and love you for who you are.
Also, make sure that you try to get to know the person well enough before you meet them in person. and take someone with you, just in case (a few friends or a family member, that's what i did and it turned out fine)
Good luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2010): Online dating worked for me. I met a guy two years ago and were still together, happy as two bunnies in bunny hole :-)
Be yourself..focus on your good bits, not your bad bits. Don't reply to mail which says "Hey babe/baby/honey/sweetheart". Make your profile intelligent. Don't write " In my spare time I like shopping and partying" unless you want to attract men who just want sex!
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (14 October 2010):
I've tried it before and it's okay. You pretty much have to go about it any other way that you would date, you just meet a different way. I would say, don't cling. One dude was texting me all freakin' day about what he was doing or how much his car was and whatnot. Sorry but girls don't care! Of course we don't want to see you pull up in a Pinto but if you roll up in something nice, we'll notice it without you having to tell us! Sorry, I was just going off on a tangent there.
Just be yourself and be positive. Girls like a confident guy but not cocky. And even though it seems easier to stretch the truth on things, don't.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2010): Honestly, I find it quite helpful. Match.com is pretty much the best you can do. You take a short online questionaire and it covers everything from Smoking and Drinking to "What eye color would you prefer?", "What kind of music would you like?"--all questions dealing with your ideal match.If you put in extremely picky details (like I have before) they will (in time) find you someone EXACTLY like you said in the survey. Its almost like the person is made to order just for you.As for the actual dating... Most online dating sites have an option to send mail to that person. Just start by saying hi, and then strike up a conversation about one of your common interests (they're listed on both of your profiles). Start out just like friends and if you're matched up according to your preferences then you will have the relationship take off in absolutely no time.
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