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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Ok, so me and my ex were finished 3 months ago. Somehow we managed to still keep in contact because of some important things. Sometimes we would be rude to each other on texts and send harsh words to each other. Later we will realize that we should just wish each other happiness and end up feeling like friends again.I must admit I am bitter about our break-up but I can feel in my gut he is bitter too. During our "friendly mode" days..he would be insecure and would ask me nicely if I met anyone. But most days he acts like he is in charged and would just reply to me with one-liners (totally indifferent messages)Now, he is supposed to pay me what he owes me and has given me all the excuses in the world to delay it. I know he can pay me in just one click but I don't know why he is holding it like I am a dog and the money is the bone.Last wkend, after a series of texts discussing about his rudeness he said nicely to me he will send me the dates of when he is going to pay me. But he never got back to me. Needless to say, I am totally tired of this drama! I am so exhausted. So instead of feeling angry and bitter, I decided to just let it go. So I never made any contact or replied to his last msg stating about the dates. Then I received a message from him, he is begging me to give him more time to pay me. I didn't reply to him yet so I don't know how much time he needs, I suspect it would be like a month or two more. But he keeps saying that. The question is, should I reply to him? I somehow feel guilty too that he texted me nicely about it but then I did not reply. It's been 3 days now since he texted and I know he is waiting for my reply.But should I reply? What will I say? I don't want anymore drama with our relationship but ofcourse I want my money back!!Guys, I wonder what he thinks of me now? I need your smart opinions. Please!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks girls for the advise.
I just sent him a message which goes like this:
(in response to his: please give me more time to gather the amount as I paid 3 months advance for the apartment. is that ok with you? pls reply)
"So when are you paying me then? Hope it will not take 3 months. For now, I will leave it up to you. Coz if you want to pay, you will really pay. I can't waste any more time on this issue. Bye."
Maybe my approach is wrong. I don't know. But that will be my last message.
LOL don't know if i said it right.
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (5 August 2009):
 Send him a certified letter informing him of the amount owed and the due date. If he doesn't pay up, take him to small claims court. There is no point dragging out this mess any longer. What he thinks of you is irrelevant. Get your money!
Good luck.
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