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writes:I am 13 and so horny that i am fingering my self.I need sex but it bad.how can I help myself?????????????
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reader, Tomas  +, writes (21 February 2009):
Masturbation is fine, it helps you learn what you like, and will likely make for a better sex life when you grow up.
If you feel that it is talking up too much of your time, that it is compulsive, then I'd suggest two things.
First, try to stop for a few days. When you touch yourself you build sexual tension, that wants to be released in an orgasm. By not touching yourself, the tension will gradually lessen and after a couple of days will be less intense. Also, if you manage to have an orgasm, the tension will release completely (which is why people do it), but the feeling you get is somewhat like a drug, which will make you want to do it again soon. Again in this case, by abstaining for a few days, you get the tension and desire out of your system.
Second, you can make changes in the things you do that build up sexual tension in you. Maybe you like to hang out without boys who flirt with you (flirting is a way of building sexual tension in someone else, so they will want you to touch them to relieve it). Maybe you watch shows or read books that arouse you. Or maybe you just have a lot of free time alone and bored, that you fill with fantasies. By replacing these thoughts with something else (work on a fun project, hang out with girl friends, read an interesting book that isn't sexual) this will help take your mind off sex. With your mind off it, the tension will fade and your need to touch yourself will be less.
Again, there is nothing wrong with touching yourself, provided you don't do it in ways that interfere with others, and that doing so doesn't interfere with your own quality of life.
Good luck.
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reader, killadavill +, writes (21 February 2009):
get help, you don't need sex youre 13 still and such a baby
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2009): i know how hard it is, i'm 13 too and get that way sometimes.Its just after you start learning about that stuff when you get this way, just try thinking of other things.I got over it after about 4 months and I still get that way somtimes but I just do somthing to take my mind off it.I know I remember wanting sex so bad I was willing to do it with anyone, lol.But don't, 13 is way to young to start having sex at least wait till your 16.Goodluck
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