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writes:Ok, so me and my girlfriend have been together for 4 and a half years. We both love eachother but she lies to me so much about such little things for no reason. Well, anyway the big problem is today she said she was going to meet another guy and how she's sleeping with other people. I know in my heart she's lying but i asked her like a hundred times to please tell me the truth, she still continued. Well i stopped talking to her and asked her to leave my home, we got arguing even more, things got physical between both of us and before you know it iv'e pinned her down to the bed to stop her from scratching my eyes out. Needless to say, we were both very angry and upset and now it looks like we'll never be back to the way we were. I do love her very much and i know she loves me but this isn't the first time she's done things like this in fact it happens about every 2 weeks just sometimes i have to do my best to ignore it. She's the type of person who will not back down and this means that even if she was 100% wrong she'll never admit to it or talk to me. What can i do? I really don't want to lose her, she's my life. I only wanted to lay down with her and spend time together!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2010): There are a couple of important things in a relationship, in between those, TRUST and SELF RESPECT. I have to admit I was in a relationship where my partner and I loved each other but it ended, we were about to get married and PUFF I woke up from that dream... think for 1 second, if your relationship is like this right now, would you be happy if you were married and she continued to be like that? I know you love her, but do you love yourself as well?if there is no Trust, there is nothing, if you cant truste her with your life, then walk away, as one of my friends says, after one comes another one... and that is a proven fact. Dont turn back, just keep on going, I know PERSONALLy that it hurts, but this is the only way you will love yourself and respect yourself... Please dont do it for her, do it for yourself.
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reader, theaterlover  +, writes (24 February 2010):
If she lies to you, then she isn't worth keeping around anyway. who knows what else she lying about?
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reader, Miamine +, writes (24 February 2010):
 "she said she was going to meet another guy and how she's sleeping with other people."
This is very, very strange behaviour.. she fears commitment, so she's testing you and trying to get you to run away. Look for possible sexual abuse in her past.
She could also have mental difficulties, like bi-polar which have not been diagnosed.
Finally she could have very bad Pre-menstrual tension before her period, which makes her head go all funny.
What she's doing is not normal at all, this girl has serious psychological issues and probably needs to see a doctor.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (24 February 2010):
I wouldn't have a girl like this in my life. She said she was going to meet a guy and she said that she was sleeping with a load of people before everything turned physical. You don't know she loves you at all. She doesn't. If she loved you she wouldn't treat you like crap. And apart from that she won't listen. Just get rid of her and actually fund a decent girl instead. She won't change at all.
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