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writes:I have a question. I was wondering if anyone could give me their thoughts on this letter I was going to mail to the boy I like telling him about an idea I had. Please give me ur honest opinon. Here it is:Hey (Anonymous)I want u 2 know that for me, this is taking a LOT of guts. So I hope u appreciate it. At my dad's work, they do name drawings 4 prizes, and a lot of times the prizes r baseball tickets. (TWINS usually.) And my dad was able to get 2 of them, and I know u really like the TWINS, so I thought u might want 2 go w/ me. I asked my dad 2 do this 4 me, and my family aren't really baseball fans, so I'm mainly doing this 4 u. I thought it would b a good way 2 get 2 know u more, and hey, u could teach me a little about baseball.U probably already know that I like u. (which he should) I've actually liked u since 7th grade and I still like u. I can't get over u. It's impossible 2 believe that it took me this long 2 finally get up the courage 2 talk 2 u. Let's face it, I'm a nervous wreck aroud cute,nice,and funny boys. (Like U!) I don't know if u remember the zap game that u did in 7th grade, but when u asked me out there, I said no, but I wanted to say yes, but I was 2 nervous. I thought u were only asking me out because u had to 4 the game. So I was just wondering if u wanted 2 go 2 the TWINS game w/ me. If u want 2 go w/ someone else, I can give u the tickets since my family isn't in2 baseball. But if u do want 2 go w/ me, all u have 2 do is respond to me.Then I gave him 4 ways to reach me. There's some stuff in there I know u might not understand since u weren't there, but most of it should be clear. Please give me ur thoughts. THANK U!Sorry it's sooo long. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2008): i think it's great and he'll be one lucky boy if he had u
good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2008): awww it seeems like you really like him..and idk if he actually likes you..you didnt really explain the way he acts around u and stuff..but if he askeed u out in 7th grade maybe he still does like you
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reader, oldfool  +, writes (27 June 2008):
 I agree that short and sweet is better. It should be a pleasant, friendly, but polite invitation, not a heartfelt confession of love.
If he accepts, and things go on from there, there will be plenty of time for confessions of love then!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2008): Hey, you sound like you really really like this boy, and I am sure he gets that vibe from you too.
Here is the thing, when you are first starting out a relationship with someone of the opposite sex, telling them how much you like them and why you are asking them to take these tickets and go with you because you like them so much and have been just dying to go out with them is very sweet, but it is also a lot of pressure.
People respond to pleasure, not pressure, remember that.
You don't want to go into this much detail about the why you got the tickets, or how much you really really like him, simply state that you thought he might like to go to the game with you because you know how much he likes the twins, and that your parents got the tickets for you both, and ask him what time you can pick him up and where.
All the other stuff has to come after conversation with the guy, try to be his friend first by reflecting back to him what he says to you in your own words, that way he will form a bond and a connection with you because he will feel you are really listening, you are really interested and you really understand him. The really liking him part has to be earned, by Him, for him to want to hang out with you a lot. Guys like to feel that they are the ones winning you over first, not the other way around....so let him ease into getting to know you before you tell him how you really feel.
You are off to a good start though so I hope he agrees to go with you...that is a very cool thing to do for him.
Take care..
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reader, Caralots +, writes (27 June 2008):
oh boy.
that may be a little to strong. instead of the whole "i've liked you since 7th grade..." you should just say, "I was wondering if you would like to go to a twins game just you and me, like as a date" because what your saying here is VERY VERY strong, and most guys don't want a girl to come on that strong. I did that once to a guy, and he showed the letter to all his friends and they mocked me for a VERY VERY VERY long time, they still do actually.
so from expierence, take out everything but the part where you say "Would you like to go on a date to a twins game with me?"
short, simple, and very weak.
its better then too strong.
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