I need me time and feel we need to go our separate ways

A male age 36-40, *regman430 writes:

Hey guys i feel like i asked this question 5 times before and im always hoping for a better easier solution to my problem. Anyway here goes my dilemma. I have been with my girlfriend for 3-4 years now and we have a 2 year old baby girl who i adore more then anything in the world. I met my girlfriend through a group of my friends who i dont talk too anymore because my gf thinks they are bad influences bla bla bla. I kinda considered my girlfriend my rebound because i just came out of a 6 year relationship with my high school sweetheart. But anyways, my issue is we always got into arguments and constant fighting because she is very insecure. She grew up from with her dad skipping out on her when she was young and her step dad cheating on her mom. Not to mention my girlfriend is also 20 and im 26 shes immature. But i have no life i feel like. I feel like a a prisoner. I feel like im missing out on so much in life. I havent been out since 2008 when the phillies won the world series. I havent talked or seen any of my friends. I tried talking to my mom about it but you know how moms are. She says work it out and start going out as a couplen you have a beautiful baby you dont wanna lose that bla bla bla. She doesnt understand that I need ME time. I need to have a social life and see my friends. Im sick of being a prisoner and fighting. I give my gf credit though. I am unemployed right now and im staying home with the baby while she goes out and works as a waitress. So i understand shes stressed out a bit. Because the roles were reversed when i was working and i came home after a long day i didnt wanna hear or talk to anyone. But the fact of the matter is how long can i go on like this? I dont wanna look back when im 36 and be like geeze i missed out on so much. Id like my life back. And just go our seperate ways. Honestly i didnt think wed make it this long after the first 2 years. It was hell! But how can i approach her and be like we need to go our seperate ways? I say to her i love you on the phone and how can i just bring it up out of the blue ya know? Im afraid of how she would act. I really am! Because shes fragile and a cryer and I always feel bad and give in. What do i do? Please someone help me

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